[ SECRET POST #4470 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4470 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Realizing you have feelings for someone else when you're in a relationship...

[(Anonymous)]

C is a really, really, really bad idea. Almost as bad as B. Of course... some people appreciate being told of a potential affair, but I think it would just blow up in the face of OP and make them look like the bad guy. Coworker needs to figure out stuff with coworker's spouse and decide on their own how they should proceed. It's not on OP to get involved with that.

Re: Realizing you have feelings for someone else when you're in a relationship...

[(Anonymous)]

"I might look like the bad guy, so I'll let an innocent spouse keep thinking their cheating spouse is a stand-up person."

Then there's the possibility it all comes out later and OP turns into the person who didn't tell, had feelings for the coworker, and ends up the bad guy anyway.

Pick your risks. Coworker put OP in the spot where they're forced to make decisions.

Re: Realizing you have feelings for someone else when you're in a relationship...

[(Anonymous)]

Except there is no cheating spouse. There's a spouse that has feelings for someone else, but has agreed with that someone else that cheating is not going to be a thing.

OP's coworker should talk to their spouse about their marital issues, but it isn't OP's place to force that issue, and if they did it wouldn't be taking any sort of moral stance because humans getting mushy feelings for other humans is not, in fact, a betrayal if they don't act on those feelings in a dishonest manner.

Re: Realizing you have feelings for someone else when you're in a relationship...

[(Anonymous)]

OP

You're right, looking like the bad guy is something I'm afraid of. I feel like if I told, and they eventually got divorced, I would be blamed. Maybe that's cowardly of me, but I just don't want to get involved in that.

Re: Realizing you have feelings for someone else when you're in a relationship...

[(Anonymous)]

So what happens if you don't tell, they don't get divorced, and the husband finds out later? How long do you plan to keep this a secret?

Re: Realizing you have feelings for someone else when you're in a relationship...

[(Anonymous)]

If your relationship can't handle this kind of boundary discussion it's a BAD RELATIONSHIP.