[ SECRET POST #4492 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4492 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

That response seems a little low-key jerkish to me. I mean, it seems designed to embarrass someone for not being comfortable with naming their kink. Or else to embarrass them for being in denial about their kink. Or else to embarrass them for not being able to express themselves better in writing. And just, why do that?

Also, to me ageplay tends to suggest a dynamic of "And now we are going to do that kinky thing we both like." Whereas what this person wants is ageplay, but it appears to be a lot less established and a lot less...formalized? So I can kind of understand why they lean away from the term in their prompt.

If I had to rephrase their prompt, I might say something like: "Naive, traumatized Klaus unwittingly discovers how much he enjoys ageplay (mainly non-sexual?)." And then let them give their examples. But I don't think there's anything wrong with how they wrote it, either. *shrugs*

[(Anonymous)]

What an odd definition of ageplay...

[(Anonymous)]

Not really. I've read a fuckton of ageplay fics, and the vast majority of the time it's characters knowingly engaging in a kink they like. A character unwittingly stumbling into components of a kink and being like, "why do I like that? I shouldn't like that. What is happening?" is also definitely A Thing, but it's not the dynamic I would bet on if the "ageplay" tag was all I had to go on, because the former dynamic is a lot more common in every fandom I've read fic in.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, agreed. Sometimes people like a kink but don't necessarily know what it's called, or don't like what normally comes under the name. There's nothing wrong with trying to be clear about what sort of thing you'd like to see.

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks anon. :) I completely agree. I think being very specific with one's prompt probably does make it somewhat less likely to get a fill. But if a specific dynamic is the only way it really works for you, then you gotta include that dynamic in the prompt or there's just no point. If a person gets stroppy over their very specific prompts not getting filled then I'll judge them, but not before.

Or, like you said, this person may not know that what they want is called ageplay. But that's fine. There's nothing wrong with not knowing all the kinks and what to call them.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, they could have said "I want ageplay" but maybe also they were so detailed because the plot they described is *the plot they want*. They don't just want ageplay, they want ageplay with those specific ideas incorporated.

[(Anonymous)]

This so much. It seems clear that it's a very specific dynamic they're looking for. Calling it "ageplay" may have been a place to start, but without further specification it probably wouldn't have gotten them what they want anyway.

[(Anonymous)]

i agree with you op

[(Anonymous)]

where is this posted?

[(Anonymous)]

https://umbrellakink.dreamwidth.org/

They're pretty fun, but I've filled a few posts, so I might be biased.

[(Anonymous)]

on the one hand, I do find the response amusing, but I can see reasons why the person wouldn't want to say 'ageplay', especially if they don't want it as something sexual, and worry that naming it as a kink will lead to only sexualized fills.

Like... there's absolutely a therapy thing that helps people who didn't have a standard childhood, where they give themselves opportunities to be childish, and if what this person is interested in is the character engaging in these things as form of therapy and being validated, rather than primarily as a thing to engage in with a romantic/sexual partner... ageplay is going to bring the wrong vibe, even though there can be a LOT of overlap.

(I'm squicked by a LOT of ageplay, but rely on play-therapy as part of learning to be an adult who had a really terrible childhood, so... I am sympathetic. But I still find the comment chuckleworthy, like... I can understand that someone might look at what I do therapeutically and assume it's a kink thing? And I just have to deal with that when it comes up, squick or no squick)