[ SECRET POST #4495 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4495 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

yikes

[(Anonymous)]

Then your parents and teachers need a good shake.

[(Anonymous)]

Me too OP. The people around me didn’t have “bad” relationships per se, but very uptight protestant, emotionless heterosexual relationships that just seemed boring and mandatory. and the alternative is romance media which is often rife with stalking, predatory, and dubiously consensual behavior. Fanfic has given me a better model than any other medium.

[(Anonymous)]

Yep. Fanfic was what taught me that LGBT ships were okay. Surprise surprise, turns out I'm not straight.

[(Anonymous)]

That’s really cool, OP. All I learned from fanfic was the different ways people can have almost improbable sex.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[(Anonymous)]

This is nice, OP. And good for you!

[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes I feel the same way about family. Like my childhood wasn't bad, but I always come across characters with bad childhoods being portrayed respectively, and never seem to grasp with part of it is that bad. For me I'm always thinking, it could be worse, and if it's only a couple times it's (not fine, but) not that bad. (wow this comment is a mess, sorry bout that)

It's good you know what makes a healthy relationship now, and know that you deserve one!
: )

[wannabe_influential]

I like reading fanfic because I want to believe in a world different than mine where every relationship either ends in physical violence and divorce at it's worst or passive-aggressive resentment at it's best.

I want to believe that real, loving relationships exist, but God it is hard when everything around you growing up points to the contrary.

[(Anonymous)]

That's wonderful to hear OP and I was happy to see this secret.

FanFic helped me in a myriad of ways when it came to sexuality. Being able to explore my bisexuality and fetishes has made me a more chill person all around, giving me an outlet for built up frustration. It's also given me hope that maybe I'll be able to find a partner that's interested in the same stuff I am one day - it's great knowing that there are other authors with similar tastes as myself so it's actually made me more personable too, being able to relate to others?

[(Anonymous)]

(same anon)

To expand somewhat further in relation to the secret, fanfic has also taught me about the importance of communication between partners, when it comes to fetish exploration. That and it's possible to be into kinky things but also have a very loving relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

Getting into fic definitely taught me that loving same-sex relationships were a real thing! (And since I am a lesbian and didn't know that either, this was extremely important!)

I think sometimes the role models you see around you aren't necessarily bad, but can be very, very limited.

[(Anonymous)]

It's okay. Sometimes you are so surrounded or you were raised in toxicity and you have no idea what a healthy relationship IS. I didn't know that parents weren't supposed to insult you until my friends told me that their parents didn't do that! (I was a teenager when I found out that everyone's family wasn't like mine.)

[(Anonymous)]

Omg same OP. And friendships too.

[(Anonymous)]

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I should point out that it wasn't just being surrounded by toxic relationships, it was also because i'm autistic. People were a complete mystery to me. Fic gave me a low stress and anxiety free space to think about relationships and how to behave around people. I learnt pretty much all of my friendship and relationship ethics from fic.

[(Anonymous)]

♥!!!

Support for you from a fellow autistic anon. Fiction can be so nice for this stuff...

[(Anonymous)]

That's going to be a big yikes from me.

cw: personal anecdote about domestic strife and my parents’ loveless marriages

[(Anonymous)]

As someone who grew up with parents who should’ve divorced years before, parents who kept shutting down my innocent questions about love, who’s too traumatized and sex-repulsed asexual in a society where marriage is typically all about having endless babies until menopause and with lacking mental healthcare, fluffy and sweet, innocent ships are my lifeline.

I love fictional families that deal with problems in a constructive way and still love each other. Where children aren’t terrified of their parents’ fights and hiding from the first warly warning signs that someone is mad and you have to stop having fun or making any sound so you won’t be dragged into it too.

I often think I’m too much of a romantic to ever fall in love, I want to keep my ideals that I don’t believe could exist in this world or at least, not this society, untarnished and close to my heart.