[ SECRET POST #4507 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4507 ⌋

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Comments

Re: On a scale of 1 to 10

[(Anonymous)]

Like... 6? It's an aggressive shitty thing to do and it should probably be relationship ending in most scenarios but there are a lot worse things.

Re: On a scale of 1 to 10

[(Anonymous)]

agreed, this is where I am too. honestly a lot more people should just be honest about being unable to be monogamous but society punishes nonmonogomy unless you're actively poly or in a certified Open Relationship (tm).

Re: On a scale of 1 to 10

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed, the highest I'd give it is a 6. And no, I've never cheated on anyone. It just seems like absolutely a bad thing to do, but there are worse things to do, and it's certainly not akin to abuse or something. It probably should end relationships but many people work through it.

But then again, I'm only alive today because my mom cheated on her husband and resulted in me. :)

Re: On a scale of 1 to 10

[(Anonymous)]

It just seems like absolutely a bad thing to do, but there are worse things to do, and it's certainly not akin to abuse or something.

NAYRT - What you said here made me think about the different angles from which I think people are coming at this question.

I think some of the people ITT are coming at this question of "how bad is cheating?" from the perspective of, "how much would being cheated on hurt me?" And for a lot of those people, the answer is that they would rather be physically assaulted than cheated on. Whereas I think other people ITT are coming at the question of "how bad is cheating?" from the perspective of "How bad of a person are you if you cheat?" Which I think yields significantly different (less condemning) answers.

Because even if someone feels they would rather be beaten than cheated on, if that person's partner beats them I'm gonna call their partner a bad person, whereas if that person's partner cheats on them, I'm going to think, "You know, people cheat, and that is really shitty and they should feel ashamed of their actions; and yeah maybe they are a bad person, or maybe they were just weak and selfish in this specific way about this specific thing; I really don't know," and I'm probably going to reserve judgement.

Re: On a scale of 1 to 10

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

Yeah, I tend to come down on it as cheating = doing a bad thing, but abuse (physical or emotional) = being a bad person.

Re: On a scale of 1 to 10

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

There's also the idea of is it being done to you or they've done it to someone in the past, and if you're willing to give them a chance in the first place.

Re: On a scale of 1 to 10

[(Anonymous)]

I agree. I think forcing a 0-10 scale on relationship issues is hard anyway, but if we must, then let's say 5 is the cut-off point, where anything higher would result in the end of that relationship... cheating would be a 6 for me. Abuse and violence I would certainly rank higher, but personally I think even stealing from me is a worse offense.