[ SECRET POST #4572 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4572 ⌋

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[Zilverpijl / Silver Arrow]


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[Taskmaster series 8, Lou Sanders]


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[Spider-Man: Homecoming]


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[British gardener and presenter Monty Don, Big Dreams, Small Spaces]


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[Good Omens]









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Comments

Re: Old parents

[(Anonymous)]

It's really common and really sad, but a lot of men (older men in particular) don't have much of a life outside of work and their spouse, so when they retire, they have nothing to do. No real friends, no meaningful hobbies, etc. so they can get clingy and their world gets very small and narrow. If you can, encourage your father to pursue some interests separate from your mom, preferably outside of the house. He'll be less of a anxiety-ridden crank if he has other things to occupy his time.

Re: Old parents

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you!

I fear his only interest lies in self-help/homeopathy books and complaining about stuff. :/ It's even hard to find Christmas/birthday gifts for him now cause even if I get something that's technically in his wheelhouse (books about trains, CDs, stuff from his favorite comedians) it just... never really gets used/read after the initial (and genuine) "Oh, cool!"

I do think that my father would benefit from therapy (anxiety and also depression maybe) with REAL meds (I went to a psychiatric hospital for almost three months a few years back, so I'm not just talking out of my ass), but he refuses. One of his doctors actually recommends him to go to a health resort, buuuuuuut my father also refuses to go to one that's to far away (he has been to several over the years, but they were close by aka he hung around several days a week at home regardless AKA it was less than useless). Blergh. He really is still a nice person and very much on the whiny side of the spectrum instead of nasty yet, but really... I look at his mother now and shudder.

I really wish I had the means to move out (but if I had, I'd probably constantly feel bad for leaving my mother alone with all the whining). :/

Re: Old parents

[(Anonymous)]

Hell, go ahead and point out that he's slowly turning into his own mother. Nobody likes to hear that, but I bet he probably doesn't think of himself that way. It might be a wake up call.