[ SECRET POST #4623 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4623 ⌋

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[ninefox]

Even if you have reasons for hating yourself (that aren't your brain lying to you some more, which SUPER happens, especially if you're smart and good at rationalizing your depression), hating yourself is not a very useful response, either for you or anyone else.

Hating yourself doesn't help anyone, it only hurts you! Maybe you've done some genuinely heinous things and you really need to change. That could be true! There are people for whom that's true, and some small fraction of them might be self-aware about it. But in that case, it's way, way harder to work on being a better person, and to ask for the help you need to accomplish that, if you're crippled by misery and self-loathing. Remorse and self-hatred can be hard to untangle, but they are not the same thing. One leads to empathy and perspective, and the other leads to self-sabotage and projection and more and more negativity.

Maybe you've made some choices that you hate. But the more you hate yourself for them, the more you're defining yourself by those choices, and the harder it is to make different kinds of choices.

Seek help. Don't think of it as something you deserve or don't deserve. Think of it as doing the right thing, even though it's really hard. Think of it as one thing you don't have to hate yourself for.

[(Anonymous)]

These are some words of wisdom right here. I could not agree more.

[(Anonymous)]

I know I'm coming in late, but I just have to tell you that you've just flipped a switch for me for something I've been working on for a long time. I'm seriously going to c/p this comment and save it. Thank you.

(Also, awesome username!)

[ninefox]

Good luck, anon! I'm cheering for you, and I'm proud of you.

Also, a lot of my thoughts on this were shaped by tumblr user theunitofcaring, so you might find more helpful perspective there.

(And thanks!)