[ SECRET POST #4691 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4691 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I feel for you, anon. I've modded some fic exchanges with a minimum age limit because... yeah. It's hard enough wrangling adults, never mind chasing down teenagers to make sure they do what they signed up to do.

Is there any way to reach out to his parents and explain your position and ask them to help keep an eye on things? Failing that, what would happen if you didn't babysit him and just... let him fail, if he doesn't keep up his end of the deal? Fair's fair. If he can't do this on his own without someone to hold his hand every step of the way, then that's a strong argument that he's not ready for the Secret Santa thing.

But either way, I wouldn't put up with him raising hell about it now. The time to do that is long past, and if he cares so much about it, he should've spoken up last year. This year, he can shut his piehole and participate, or sit it out if he's so unhappy.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

da but that would be pretty unfair to his recipient? If they've signed up for the exchange and they put in all of the work on their end to get their gift ready for their person, it's not fair for them to get screwed over just because OP wanted to teach the kid a lesson.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT - I mean, it sucks for his recipient, yeah, but I don't think worrying about his recipient should be OP's responsibility. It should be his responsibility.

it's not fair for them to get screwed over just because OP wanted to teach the kid a lesson.

OP has nothing to do with it.

What's not fair is for the recipient to get screwed over just because the kid invited himself to the adults table - again - without the discipline or motivation to take on the responsibilities he was signing up for.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

It's not about "teaching the kid a lesson", per se. It's about letting the kid bear the consequences of his own actions instead of spending time and energy OP doesn't have to clean up after him. If his recipient is disappointed, that's on the kid... as it should be. If the kid is not up to the responsibilities of taking part in this secret santa exchange, then he shouldn't sign up. If he doesn't meet his agreed upon responsibilties, then he shouldn't be allowed to join in the future.

I get that you (and OP) are worried about the fallout for his recipient, but you know what? Letting the kid screw up and shielding him from the repercussions of his own bad decisions isn't going to help anyone, either. Not the kid, and not every recipient who must deal with him in the future.

OP has the option of making quiet arrangements on the side as a back up plan, but NOT telling the kid they've done so. So the kid's got a chance to prove himself, but OP has a safety net. But either way, there must be consequences to not meeting these obligations or you're just going to get more bullshit like this in the future.