[ SECRET POST #4788 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4788 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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03. [SPOILERS for Shameless season 10]



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04. [SPOILERS for Knives Out]



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05. [SPOILERS for Titans season 2]



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06. [WARNING for discussion of abuse]



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07. [WARNING for discussion of abuse]

[Gone Girl]


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08. [WARNING for discussion of rape]













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Comments

Re: Rant/vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I get that taking care of disabled kids can be difficult—I was one—but that doesn’t mean it’s okay for your son to run around inside and into staff-only areas and cuss us out when he’s told to slow down and go to the other side of the counter.

You certainly don’t get to swear and scream at your son to go outside, swear and scream and cry at our security guard and every single staff member, and especially don’t get to complain that we’d give your kid a pass if he was more visibly and obviously disabled, especially when it looks like he learned his lack of boundaries, volume control, and emotional regulation from you.

He’s what? 7? 8? When I was his age I shit in the sandbox because I was afraid of school restrooms, scratched and bit people who scared or angered me, hid under tables, and had to be pulled out of class and sent home for the duration of the occasional screaming fit. If I couldn’t stay under control, I didn’t get to participate.

We have at least fifteen variously developmentally disabled volunteers that come in most days with their minders, and they and their caregivers understand that if someone has a meltdown they have to step outside for a bit until they calm down.

Your kid isn’t an unfair burden on you and we’re not being rude or mean by not allowing him to run riot; if he got hurt on our watch, we could be held responsible.

And as a mentally fucked up adult who was a mentally fucked-up kid, your acting like caring for your son is some terrible burden and we should feel sorry for you? Pisses me the hell off.

My parents weren’t always great at parenting or even being functional adults, but even my dad who didn’t want kids didn’t act like I was a horrible trial to be endured. And your kid is definitely picking up on your attitude towards him and your attitude and behavior in general. Maybe stop screaming about how unfair it is that people tell you you’re responsible for his behavior and realize they’re right—you’re probably causing a lot of it by not taking responsibility for your own actions.

I didn’t have kids because I wasn’t sure I could care for them, but I almost offered to adopt him because I’ve been where he was and came out of it with a degree and a full time benefitted job and I haven’t bit anyone (as tempting as it was to take a chunk out of this woman today) or shit on a playground in decades.