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⌈ Secret Post #4838 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

What's wrong with people being upset that something they were excited about was ruined? I'm presuming this was a thing they had been preparing for and looking forward to for quite a while. A lot of peoples' lives are in major turmoil right now and they're looking for things to cheer them up, so in that sense, it's even more of a bummer when something you were looking forward to is now gone.

[(Anonymous)]

This. Like, as someone on the front lines right now, I totally understand WHY things are cancelled and how necessary it is, but...

I was supposed to go on vacation April 28. My first vacation in 2 years. And now not only is that not going to happen, the reason I was going in April was because starting July into May of 2021 I will be involved in our second site of our hospital being finished and door opening which means no vacation now until after that is finished.

So yes I am fucking disappointed and mad.

[(Anonymous)]

Exactly. My friend and I had been planning to go on a roadtrip to go see a concert at the start of May. I'd already gotten the approval for the time off work, all the plans were in place, and we were really excited to get to go have a good time together because our schedules are such that we don't get to see each other that often even though we only live about 30 minutes apart (I work a 9-5, she works evening/night shifts). So even when other things started getting postponed or canceled, I could still tell myself it was okay because I'd be getting to see my friend and have a good time when this was all over.

But now it's canceled too and I don't know if they're going to reschedule it later, but even if they do, it doesn't give me a concrete thing to be excited about NOW when I've been stuck in my apartment and haven't seen another human being for more than two weeks and now have to battle all of the other people also applying for unemployment and then hope that what I get will start coming before I need to pay my bills and that it will be enough to cover my bills until I can finally go back to work. It really would have been nice to have that one thing to look forward to, you know?

[(Anonymous)]

Yep, I was supposed to go to SF to see my GF, we were supposed to go see BTS, and then go to London for a week because I've been promising to take her for YEARS. Now that's all gone, and it will likely be three years total before we can see each other in person again. It's rough.

[(Anonymous)]

Ugh, I'm sorry, that really sucks. :( That's the sort of thing you absolutely can't just reschedule easily, either.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, it's okay to be disappointed that something you've been planning for a while has been cancelled. But when all you can do during a pandemic is complain about how much it inconvenienced you, while it's impacting or destroying others' lives, it might sour other people's opinion of you.

[(Anonymous)]

that's human nature, though. it's why you can't guilt kids into eating their vegetables by telling them that there are thousands of children starving in africa. people can only muster up so much empathy for an abstract concept of others.

[(Anonymous)]

Uh, what?

A global pandemic is as far from abstract as you can get.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT but you'd honestly be surprised how hard people are able to distance themselves from things when it doesn't affect them personally. Which means unless a loved one or themselves has covid, it's 'easier' for them to think it won't ever happen to them.

[(Anonymous)]

i don't know anyone who has had it. there are only a few cases where i live. so yeah, right now, to me it's pretty abstract. i'm not saying that it's not affecting a great deal of people, but there are also huge numbers of people to whom it's nothing more than some sort of abstract boogeyman at the moment. that's especially true if you don't live in a big city.

[(Anonymous)]

Thirding what the others are saying. I don't know anyone who is sick. I also don't know anyone who knows anyone who is sick. It feels pretty abstract to me. I follow the safety procedures, because I'm not an idiot. And I have a lot of sympathy for people whose lives have been far more adversely affected than my own. But that doesn't mean this all doesn't still feel very abstract to me on a basic level.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not sure it's fair to leap from 'people in a fandom group who know each other primary/only in a fandom context focus on the fandom context when talking to each other' to 'these people don't care about anything other than the fandom context'.

Like, I'm lucky enough to live in an area that hasn't been hit very hard (yet) and have a job that's relatively unaffected by all of this. I've had to cancel an upcoming vacation but otherwise I'm basically fine. So I've had some conversations with some of my co-workers who are in the same boat being sad together about our cancelled plans. But that's absolutely not the conversation I'm having with, say, my colleague who has elderly parents in northern Italy, or my friends who are worrying about how they're going to pay the bills. Bitching about the loss of Trivial Thing to other people whose biggest problem is also the loss of Trivial Thing doesn't mean you don't understand that it's trivial or that other people are suffering a lot more.

[(Anonymous)]

And sometimes the loss of Trivial Thing is just the icing on top of the shit cake of everything else that's wrong and stressful at the moment, too, and it's easier to complain about that than it is to spend too much time thinking about how the heck you're going to pay your bills this month.