[ SECRET POST #4858 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4858 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Hannah Rutherford]

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08. [SPOILERS for What We Do In The Shadows, Season 2, Episode 2]



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09. [WARNING for transphobia]




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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

It seems like there is a more narrow box for being 'female' than ever before (ironic given how progressive this generation consider themselves ). I've never been very girly, but going to uni and meeting other girls who had similar interests to me (science, maths, building stuff) made me feel happier. A decade or three down the line and I'very had long enough to self-reflect on my issues with gender to know it stemmed from the pressure society was putting on me. Love being a woman now.

The whole point of this ramble is that if I was a teen today I'd probably be thinking 'oh I must be trans because i'm uncomfortable with my body and don't find clothes, make up or chick flicks interesting'. Whereas I was just a teen with different interests.

I suspect there are a lot of teens out there who are experiencing something similar and declaring themselves trans as a result. If that is indeed the case then it seems somewhat diminutive to those people who are actually trans.

[(Anonymous)]

Actually, most trans people who aren't arseholes are completely fine with other people questioning their gender identity and experimenting with their gender expression. Citation: am queer, have trans friends.

[(Anonymous)]

Ditto. Have trans best friend. Friend of ours began questioning their gender identity, trans best friend was supportive all the way.

People aren't black or white, guys. It takes time to figure out this shit. Stop saying that someone going through a phase of doubt is "devaluing the trans identity", jesus christ

[(Anonymous)]

Adding onto this: I can tell you from experience that a lot of trans people experience some sort of anxiety about whether or not they're actually trans, in no small part because society as a whole has been constantly telling them they are or should be cis, so all the "devaluing real trans people" narrative does is shove them back into depressive spirals of self-loathing.

Also, dysphoria is weird. For some it's super obvious, but sometimes it's just a subtle but persistent emptiness or wrongness that you can't seem to pin down, until eventually you do. So for people in the latter category, it REALLY doesn't help to be told they can't possibly be trans because [arbitrary thing the speaker thinks is significant].

[(Anonymous)]

As a cis woman who was "different" as a teen, very tomboyish, queer, and into masculine hobbies, that's not how it works. I've thought about it, sure! Am I trans? Is that why I don't feel Perfectly Feminine? But no, I'm a woman. I feel like a woman.

Acting like trans people haven't REALLY thought about it and are just following a trend is what's insulting to trans experience.

[(Anonymous)]

Dude, your experience is not universal. I’m a cis woman who was uncomfortable with my body and didn’t give a shit about clothes, makeup, or chick flicks back in the day, and I never thought I was a man. Other people sometimes assumed I was and joked about my gender presentation, which made me uncomfortable because I was definitely a woman; I had no interest in being a man. I just wanted to be seen as feminine without having to care about fashion and boy bands.

But if people turn out to be wrong about their own gender identity? (Or sexuality or whatever else?) LET THEM. It’s not hurting you in any way. If there are big groups of FtM misogynists out there, the problem is misogyny, not trans people.

And I seriously doubt that the vast majority of FtM people are secretly misogynistic cis straight women. That claim has been made so many fucking times and it’s never about actually wanting to help women be more comfortable with their bodies, interests, gender presentation, or sexuality. It’s always been about controlling people.

If you were right about most FtM actually being misogynistic straight cis women, you’d be advocating dismissing what women say about their own selves and bodies, which sounds... a little misogynist.

[(Anonymous)]

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