[ SECRET POST #4909 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4909 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I've been thinking about it for hours trying to figure out why we were friends in the first place and I don't know. She mixes being fun with total self-centredness and leans hard on the things like her depression and racism to bring people to be sympathetic even when she's being a dick. The racism is particularly a weird one. She spent her first 20 years in Nigeria with absolutely minted parents and also married rich (she redecorates her house every 6 months with top of the line stuff and has about twenty expensive hobbies she blows thousands of dollars on a year for kit for and then drops them without using any of it) and has claimed to me several times in the past that she has never personally experienced any racism herself in our (European) country. I mean, racism is bigger than all of us but still, her using it as her ace card in arguments has started to seem a little manipulative.

By contrast, I'm socially awkward, not that fun and dislike using manipulation because of some experiences when I was a kid. I don't know if any of our friends even see how manipulative she can be. They certainly have been avoiding her in the last few years, although it's funny that they all came running this time round to defend her.

More and more I'm thinking this was always going to happen and I should have seen the warning signs and not wasted my time trying to be a better friend when all she wanted was someone to endlessly complain and bitch to.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Assholes aren't assholes 100% of the time... that's how they trick people into relationships. You tried to be a good friend and when you ran into difficulty, you tried harder. That's what good people do, especially good people who haven't had much experience in detecting red flags.

This sucks, and I'm sorry. But on the other hand, it's food for thought it all your future relationships, whether they're platonic or romantic. Like another anon said, sometimes it helps to ask yourself what you're getting out of a specific relationship. If the answer is "a giant pain in my ass" then that's a good sign it's time to slow fade.