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fandomsecrets2020-07-03 06:37 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2020-07-03 06:37 pm
[ SECRET POST #4928 ]
⌈ Secret Post #4928 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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04. https://i.imgur.com/D25cLFc.png
[Emma 2020, OP warned for male nudity (from the back)]
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[Star Wars Expanded Universe, resized]
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[365 Days, OP warned for image of a dub/non-con sexual situation]
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07. [SPOILERS for Far Cry 5 and Far Cry New Dawn]
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08. [SPOILERS for The Magnus Archives]
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09. [WARNING for sexual assault]
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10. [WARNING for discussion of transphobia]
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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Re: nayrt OR ayrt
(Anonymous) 2020-07-05 04:06 am (UTC)(link)YES, EXACTLY. Exactly this. Yes. You are asked this.
So when trans activists wants to dictate how we talk about an experience that is uniquely female ("people who menstruate"), I hope you see why a good amount of cis women take issue with this.
Lol, no. This experience is "uniquely female" but it is not uniquely an experience of cis women. Because there are trans people with, to use your words, female bodies. So no, we're not coming in to a community to which we don't belong and telling them how to refer to themselves, we're correcting the language of a community to which we do belong, and how others are referring to us.
To be very blunt, I have a uterus too and you don't fucking speak for me. Just how I am not saying you can't call yourself a pregnant woman or even refer to problems unique to pregnant women. That is fine. You can do that. But when you say "women" and really mean "people who menstruate" you are not being an ally to us because you are discounting us. That's why I say, including us with your language in this way (something you view merely as 'semantics') actually has much more far-reaching implications towards how other cis people like you view us.
Yes, we are a relatively "small percentage" who identify as otherwise. But making this slight change in your language literally hurts you none, whereas refusing to do so contributes to the myth that trans people are defined by our biology, that anyone AFAB will forevermore be a woman and people who are women and people who menstruate are synonymous, which they are not, even for cis women.
there was at least one high-profile article explaining what makes a person enby, and she/they described an discomfort with gender roles and relative comfort with femininty that followed my own almost to the letter. By her/their definition, I absolutely WOULD have been enby back then
It... doesn't work that way. The only reason this person is non-binary is by their own definition. So no, you would not be non-binary "by their own definition." You get to define your gender, that's kind of the whole point. Only you know what's right for you just how they only know what's right for them. For fuck's sake it's not a one-size-fits-all diagnostic test.
Also, this? a ridiculous hill to die on compared to the actual violence perpetrated against trans people. Fuck off with this. Talk to me about violence against trans people when you've seen a trans woman beaten within an inch of her life by a gang with a bike lock in a women's bathroom. 4 trans women have been killed in the last couple months. You don't get to talk to me about violence against trans people and you sure as hell don't get to imply that this is the only trans issue I care about.