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⌈ Secret Post #4972 ⌋

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Comments

Re: What are some lessons fandom taught you that you applied in real life?

[(Anonymous)]

Fiction in general but fanfiction particularly let me essentially study friendships and love and work out what kind of friend and lover I wanted to be.

The real downside was discovering that people rarely hold themselves to the kind of standards our fictional heroes do. And trying to maintain those standards for yourself can hurt because you're the only one putting as much effort in. If that makes sense?

Re: What are some lessons fandom taught you that you applied in real life?

[(Anonymous)]

Oh yes, that final paragraph makes total sense. I take that kind of stuff very seriously too, and sometimes feel disappointed in watching interactions or experiencing interactions with others.

But I think fandom may give an idealized version of the real world, an idealized version of relationships and everything else. I do think it's great to strive for those kinds of standards, but in the real world, most people won't read your mind, and you have to tell them your needs and wants. I don't think that necessarily makes them... lesser(?) people or anything, but maybe since you were exposed to certain media and they weren't, they might not be as aware of the same things you are.

Re: What are some lessons fandom taught you that you applied in real life?

[(Anonymous)]

I totally agree. People are just people. I guess tgat's the next lesson for me, as well as how to be my own advocate because people just don't yhink to ask half the time - unlike in stories.

Having come from a childhood surrounded by a lot of negativity and poisonous attitudes, I'm still grateful to have learnt how to not be that from fiction even if I maybe ended up a little unrealistic about people. (Mostly I changed anyway. It's still a WIP. Ye gawd why does nature try to turn us into our parents.)