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⌈ Secret Post #4972 ⌋

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Comments

Re: What are some lessons fandom taught you that you applied in real life?

[(Anonymous)]

First of all, thank you for reading and trying to help! That's really sweet of you.

If it was just yesterday's specific situation, then no. The problem is that it's part of a larger pattern that's starting to emerge where the group of friends keeps alienating and snubbing people without noticing. Their way of thinking about integration leads to a clique-y environment and complete disregard for those who are not currently in the group. Since there are several "versions" of the group with the same people at the center but different people in the periphery (like me), the keep creating situations similar to the one yesterday where they exclude those like me who generally consider themselves part of or at least close to the group but are not part of this particular version of it in this particular context. I know of at least two other situations where the group's thoughtlessness made someone genuinely angry, but those two people didn't say anything, and I know the group never even noticed it. And yesterday, when I confronted them when I was unhappy, they got defensive and told me it's my own fault. This isn't going to stop, and it's going to lead to more bad vibes in the bigger social environment. I don't want that.

I'm not going to confront them again – yesterday didn't go over too well and while I think that by the end of the night, I had managed to mend the worst of it, I'll tread carefully for a while – but I'll have to figure out just for myself whether I should just ignore that kind of behaviour (which doesn't sit right with me) or if not, what I should do on a smaller scale.

Re: What are some lessons fandom taught you that you applied in real life?

[(Anonymous)]

Okay reading more specifics of your situation I can see I was well off.

Tbh that does sound really shitty behaviour on their part nonny. I hope you manage to get through to them.

Re: What are some lessons fandom taught you that you applied in real life?

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you. I don't think there's an easy solution here (especially since there are still more factors to the confrontation yesterday I haven't mentioned), but we'll see.