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⌈ Secret Post #731 ⌋

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[Eyeshield 21; Sena/Suzuna]

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[top half: Perfume; bottom half: capsule and MEG.]

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[Rule of Rose]

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107. Yeah, you pretty much are the epitome of "Baawww, cry moar." I'm popular in a couple fandoms, too. You know what? I still have friends in them. It's just a matter of getting past the introductions, and talking to people. Imagine that. Making friends through communication. AMAZING.

113. You know, I hate the Lord of the Rings books, but I still think those are crap, too. And not even original crap.

129. God, when will this idiocy ever end? Oh, that's right. It never will (manners on the internet? perish the thought!).

136. You are awesome. That is all.

152. That is kinda bizarre. Out of all my RL friends, I'm pretty much the only one in fandom, but we all enjoy different series. Why do you think people own televisions? Just to watch news?

153. Spirit love! ♥ He tries so hard, he really does. And Maka loves her Papa. She just doesn't like to show it.

Edited 2009-01-05 23:48 (UTC)

107./ Not the OP (I've never been THAT popular), but for some people, do you know how bloody hard it is to make friends if people who talk to you fangirl over you? I've seen it in action. I've had friends who've gotten wildly popular in fandom, and it can be very difficult for even the most outgoing of them to strike up actual conversation with people who are fans of their work. It's like being a real life celebrity. A lot of the people who flock to you only care about your next work, and not a lot about yourself... or they care so much about your life and what keeps you from writing that they go absolutely batshit.

Not everyone can constantly rebound from that. I mean, somewhere in these comments is someone (ostensibly a jilted fan) calling out an author and calling them all sorts of names and just generally being a git. If what they're saying about the author's personal life is true... well, at least for me and my friends, that's the sort of thing that I wouldn't just be saying to any but my closest friends. So that implies to me that there is a lot of broken trust going on there. Honestly, I'd have a hard time being friends with anyone who squeals about my fanwork when they meet me, because I'd be worried that all they care about is my fanwork and they've got some grandiose idea about what I'm like and will be sorely let down when I don't live up to expectations.

On the flipside, a lot of people are afraid to actually talk to popular, well-known authors because of the idea of the Big Name Fan and the pseudo-celebrity status they attain, as well as what drama queen BNFs have done in the past. It's a lot like how people get absolutely flustered around their favourite movie star. It's easier just to geek out about their latest work than it is to try a meaningful conversation.

So, if both parties are leery of communication, your 'solution' falls apart. There's no need to be a catty cock just because you've had positive experiences and someone is sick of always having negative experiences.

Personally? I have reservations about people who approach me because they love my work. Why? Almost every single one of those people have left when I stop producing work in the fandom they enjoy. One who didn't? Turned out to be absolutely psychotic and self-absorbed and was just such a nightmare to deal with even when she was in a good mood that I had to cut her out of my life. THAT was a headache beyond all imagining that soured more than one actual friendship. Then there was the fiasco with the American election and how dare I not plan on voting for Obama~ because I was such a reasonable, intelligent, "tolerant"* person. So, that was the rest of the friends who I had just because they liked my work.

~I voted for Bob Barr, thank you muchly. One day the Libertarian Party will have the Presidency.
*I hate that term. Tolerance is when you don't like something but you put up with it anyways. So I laugh at people who pat themselves on the back for being tolerant of homosexuality, like they're so much better than everyone else. I much prefer to be considered accepting.

There's this thing on LJ called the "logout" button. If you don't like the people on LJ that you meet, stop talking to them! *GASP* Revolutionary idea coming through here.

So, if both parties are leery of communication, your 'solution' falls apart.

I'm guessing you missed the part where I wrote to get passed intros, and keep talking. You can't make friends if you are unwilling to talk to people. Those crazy facts of life, and all. If the OP is too "Oooo, I'm scared/intimidated/easily irritated" after a few people fangirl at the beginning, and just gives up, they have no one to blame for not having any fandom friends but themselves.

So again, baw moar.

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