[ SECRET POST #5090 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5090 ⌋

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Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 36 secrets from Secret Submission Post #729.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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[(Anonymous)]

There's a lot to unpack there OP.

First of all, your attention span isn't because of you being a loser. It sounds like you have a genuine problem. Maybe talk to a doctor about it if you can, and look up coping strategies and things you can do to improve it online.

Secondly, if you're struggling to be involved with the game then it's hardly surprising you're also struggling to interact with people in-game. Double the concentration required.

Thirdly, maybe stop using the phrases 'toxic' and 'bigoted'. They just make people sound like morons these days, and i'm sure that's not the case, OP.

Over all, quit being so harsh on yourself OP.

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, don't paint with broad strokes and certainly not without evidence but we're not going to stop using the word 'bigoted', like wtf.

[(Anonymous)]

If you feel left out by not knowing the plots/stories/characters of the games your friends are playing, you could watch a Let's Play of them? But it sounds like you're going to very down on yourself no matter what your hobbies are.

[(Anonymous)]

Please speak to a doctor or ask someone to help advocate for you on this. It sounds like your depression, anxiety, and possibly ADHD are negatively effecting your life. Your brain chemicals may be imbalanced. You might need meds, not... self help books.

The brain has physical/chemical processes just like the rest of your body. If you don't have enough iron, you take iron so you don't get anemic. If your blood sugar is too high and you have that specific type of diabetes, you take insulin. If your blood sugar is too low, you eat something. The brain is the same way it needs dopamine and serotonin and sometime the body isn't making enough or isn't absorbing it for some reason. There's nothing wrong with getting medication to help fix it.

I hope you can get some help. Lots of hugs. You're worth something.

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, I play a lot of computer games, but I have long periods - sometimes months and months - when I just can't muster the interest or focus enough to touch them. Except for the problems that arise from forgetting the controls and jumping when I mean to dodge, or forgetting who my character was dating (much worse), it's okay! The games don't judge :)
Be into or don't be into whatever you want. Try things out and drop them if they aren't working for you. These things are supposed to be fun, no matter what gatekeepers might say.

[(Anonymous)]

As a chronic non-accomplisher and paranoid antisocial. I get what you're saying to a certain degree.

And while you didn't leave enough specs in your secret for me to really say- I want to ask if maybe you're trying to play the games that other people in your social group recommend rather than the ones to your play-style.
If you get stuck early on then the game is most likely set to be difficult/beyond your range at the moment. If plot filled games don't interest you then you should probably look for those with plot, style, and development more in tune to what /you/ want. Not what other people say.
Multiplayer is /always/ a no-go for me. I attempted to list them for a minute before I realized that would take far too long. Never a good idea anyways because once people move on to the next, the original game is basically dead. (which why would you waste your money on that?)

My only advice is to look at what games you liked certain parts of, think you could play and styles that you're good at, ('cause no one is good at everything) and choose from there.
If you're unfamiliar about what I mean by this, I can only think of Steam atm, it's a PC gaming system thing. Each game has tags, much in the same fashion of A03, noting what game features what playstyle-wise.

I'd search up the games you didn't like on Steam to cross reference certain gameplay or styles you don't enjoy. Just so you can have an idea about what suits you.
Other than that I'd look up just how difficult the game \intends/ itself to be, (aka Dark Souls is no Katamari) just so you have reference to how difficult a game is before you become frustrated with it.


Also on a side note- every game from this century (and even some before) have options and tips/tutorials. Most of them teach you the game as you play it, though you can also adjust your settings from differential sound to key sensitivity as much as you'd like. Most everything can be personified.

[(Anonymous)]

Try fanfiction.

[(Anonymous)]

Aw, OP, there are so many hobbies for an anxious soul than gaming. Drawing and doodling are great for short attention spans. Comic books are, too, because they're very short. Even a trade paperback takes about 30 minutes to read at best. You can try single-player board games (there are WAY more than you'd think), too. There's other more physical stuff like knitting and crocheting, which is a one-person event and very good if you need repetitive tasks to keep you busy. Really there's loads of stuff out there worth trying.

If you find yourself in the situation where it's not the hobby but the stamina/discipline to keep trying, then that's all about practice. Do a thing for a designated amount of time (say, 15 minutes of doodling or crocheting) then slowly ramp that time up week by week. Discipline is inherent to no-one. Everyone has to practice to learn it. (Although admittedly some people have to work harder than others to achieve it. ADHD and anxiety are very real blockades that require a kind approach.)

I'd say try and dial back from video games. Not only do you seem zeroed in on them, but it seems like you're zeroed in on them so you can bludgeon yourself with it like it's a failure. It's not. No one blames a fish for being bad at flying. You just don't like video games. It's fine. Zoom out, look for other hobbies. And in the meantime, work on being kinder to yourself.