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⌈ Secret Post #5114 ⌋

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Re: How's it going, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Been thinking about asking to be tested to see if I have autism, which can be possible on the NHS but I feel like my doctor I've have to get a referral from won't put me through either because they won't take me seriously or its a really shitty time to bring it up with covid happening.

I've suffered from anxiety/social-anxiety ever since I was a kid and when I sought treatment 5 years ago nothing seemed to help and the last thing I got sent to was treating 'social-phobia' which may as well have shortened 3 weeks don't to say "It's all in your head :) so instead of worrying about what you're doing wrong, try not worrying about what you're doing wrong :)"
So I was put off and thought that this would just be something I'll have to live with even though it's like a big roadblock for everything I ever have to do but with six times the effort and still failing as a result half the time.

For quite some time I've been reading other peoples experience with Autism/ADHD and been thinking how much of it was stuff I go through and went through as a kid. Recently someone mentioned that anxiety can be a big issue with anyone affected with difficulties in socializing/routines/etc in association with autism. Plus when my brother got diagnosed when we were both kids, the doctor told my mother that it was impossible for me to have autism since its a 'boys condition' - so its not impossible to believe that I was overlooked because of that belief at the time.

To get to the point: I was wondering if approaching my struggles with anxiety would help knowing whether or not I have autism. It might not be the case and I have somehow over-thought about this, but it has made me wonder if its the reason why my past treatments for anxiety has never worked well.

Re: How's it going, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Disclaimer here ‘cause it’s not me personal experience and everyone is different, but my best friend has suffered from anxiety since she was very little and hadn’t found therapy to be helpful. She found out about three years ago that she has autism and said the diagnosis really helped clear up a lot of things regarding her behavior. With the diagnosis, she was able to find a therapist who helps adults with autsim and is doing much better now in managing her anxiety.

Re: How's it going, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

I could have written your comment, OP. Almost identical situation here.

I would wait, in all honesty. My wife works in the NHS and right now it is all hands to battle stations. Her hospital is pulling people from other departments to act as frontline staff, they're vaccinating 500 staff members a day, they've shut entire wards to turn them into ICU units. Things are really really bad, worse than the first wave. GPs are overwhelmed too. Your situation is not unimportant, but right now I would simply wait. There will be a better time to broach this. And when things ease up, your GP will probably welcome dealing with something not covid related.

The belief that 'it's a boys condition' has always been ridiculous, but now there is starting to be more evidence that autism presents differently in girls to boys and is therefore most often missed unless severe.

There are journal articles and a few websites out there now about how autism presents in girls. I would hunt them out as back up. If your GP refuses to listen, change GP if you can and keep going until you find someone who will help.

Good luck!

Re: How's it going, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Tried to do the same here, anon.

To put it plainly it went badly. Diagnosis is expensive and you're not going to be taken very seriously anyway, diagnosed or not. Being diagnosed as an adult is hard. As an adult female, way harder.

I realized my parents probably pulled me out of therapy and avoided getting me a diagnosis as a child because they didn't want the stigma to halt my life. My life wasn't amazing (far from it) but I probably had more enjoyable experiences than I would if I had been labeled "disabled", at least. Meaning, I wish I had been diagnosed so I wouldn't have faced that many hardships but at this point? Now that I'm old enough to be somewhat finantially and emotionally independent? I started thinking about it and said, fuck it. If some 100% proven treatment/diagnosis method actually existed I'd go for it. But there isn't, and there are 30+ autism genes which makes me wonder how much of it is just convenient bs like ADHD ; I don't need the diagnosis to take carbamazepine and sertralin (which I'm not taking anyway) and where I live I don't think it'd help me in any way. So... Yeah.

Re: How's it going, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

I've been thinking about if my social anxiety is due to something further myself. I'm usually internally anxious and uncomfortable during social situations and I'm not great at relaxing around people at work. Idk.