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⌈ Secret Post #5159 ⌋

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[OP warned for nudity, Watchmen (the TV series on HBO)]

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Chronic Illness person here (with family who his also chronically ill.) Relationships do require energy to maintain. And different relationships require different levels of energy and there is always going to be a give and take. So, you might find yourself with levels/layers of friendships after a while. (I saw this circles of friendship analogy for people who are going through cancer.) Your closest friendships are going to be the ones with the most healthy positivity (versus toxic positivity) and understanding some days you have to be in bed all day or for several days in a row. They might be the ones who support you. And then the next layer might hear from you more often you're feeling well, and then the next layer maybe the ones who seemingly fell off the radar, the ones who don't like 'dealing with sick people.' You may lose friends no matter what. It happens.

Remember though, friendship goes both ways. If the burden is on you to always contact these people, then they aren't as good of friends as you'd think.

If you go off the radar all together, you're probably going to lose all your friends. Unless your friends have this 'it's like a I saw you yesterday even though it was six months ago' mentality. (Common to more ADHD people, I guess. It's why a lot of non neurotypical people tend to end up in friends groups with each other.)

Do what you can when you can and have the energy/spoons, b/c it's really hard to be alone in chronic illness. Even if it means you have one friend you share a Discord with or something. You need someone in your corner.

I hope things get better for you.

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