This entire discussion has been about Jared's off-set behavior, what that means about him as a person, and how that may affect his former co-workers' desire to voluntarily interact with him in a professional setting now. You're the one who decided that Jared's honor needed to be defended, and then also decided to follow Jared!Stan tradition and attack people pointing out that Jared's got a years-long history of being a raging asshole to service industry workers and is not a great guy.

Also, unless you're saying that perving on assholes is your kink, you definitely don't know what 'kink-shaming' is.