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⌈ Secret Post #5458 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I don’t know if this is just my mental disabilities or I’m actually callous but I find it meaningless when someone updates their fb profile temporarily after a tragedy. you don’t know them personally. it’s performance grieving at its worst and just as bad as “thoughts and prayers to the family” imo.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sure there are a few "performing" but I think most folks genuinely feel awful after a tragedy and don't know of any other way to pay respect. Or don't realize they don't need to tear their shirts in public (okay, on the internet) after a tragedy or else someone will think they are a bad person.

As for whether or not they knew someone personally, that doesn't matter.

[meadowphoenix]

people using social performance to forestall any attempts at accountability or pressure to do something (which is why "thoughts and prayers" from politicians feels shitty) does not mean that social performance itself is bad or even has no connection to personal feeling. Social performance has a well known utility for strengthening communities.

that said facebook is an emotional void, so maybe that's skewing things for you.

[(Anonymous)]

Is it really so hard to imagine that people might have sincere feelings about the tragedies of people they don't personally know?

[(Anonymous)]

Echoing the replies above me. It’s not inherently meaningless, and it’s frequently completely sincere and heartfelt. Extending empathy to people you don’t know or don’t know very well is sometimes the only thing you can do when tragedy strikes. And it’s normal to feel said empathy in regards to the people who suffered from the tragedy.

That doesn’t mean that there isn’t some people who are only “performance grieving”. Or people like politicians who prefer to give “thoughts and prayers” instead of actually doing anything useful with their money and power, like the on of the others above said. But it is a bit overly cynical to assume the intentions and feelings of everyone extending their empathy online, because you can’t actually read their mind.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

It's no more "inherently meaningless" than any other expression of emotion about an event in the news, which is kind of the bread and butter of social media.

Honestly one of the most annoying things about social media is some people's tendencies to constantly make very uncharitable assumptions about people's motivations for doing things that they personally wouldn't.