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What makes someone an interesting person?
Do you think you're an interesting person?
Is this something that you even care about/have ever cared about?
What makes others interesting to you? Like, on a personal level and on a general/fandom/parasocial level, what makes someone you want to know more about them, be it about their personal or professional life?
No need to answer all the questions.

I have a deep seated and probably (almost certainly) unhealthy belief that I'm not interesting at all.

The more someone thinks of themselves as an interesting person, the more likely they are to be a frightful bore.

Omg so true.

Oh god all those girls going "haha yeah I'm so crazy" are usually the blandest people in a room. Same goes for dudes, obviously, just with different words describing how unique they are. It's just that the whole "I'm so crazy" is something I've noticed a lot with women.

I'm admittedly shallow and find people I'm sexually attracted to be interesting by default regardless of their hobbies or professional life. I also like when people like me and in turn find people that find me interesting to be interesting themselves. Aesthetics and amicability are what makes for interesting people.

find people I'm sexually attracted to be interesting by default

I like that you said this because, I mean, I think it's true for many people, perhaps even most people. It's also one of those things that's both delicious and horribly stupid at once. Not even stupid. Involuntary. Brain just says "Everything about that person is Reward now. Just pure Reward walking around over there."

An interesting person is the opposite of me. I am in need at 8:30pm and am I do on weekends is hang out with my family.

I'm guessing that being rather obviously non-neurotypical, some people find me interesting and most just find me creepy/weird/annoying.

I think I used to care a little when I was a kid and then I started to wonder why bother. No one is ever going to like (or even know) everyone else, so try to be inoffensive in my eccentricity and enjoy the times when people like it.

I find people who can offer different perspectives and have areas of expertise that I don't, who therefore can teach me something, interesting. Granted, that's basically everyone.

I can definitely be interesting over short timeframes. I've kept long term relationships going for decades now so some people must find me interesting or else not mind that I'm not.

I am extremely shy and so I strive to be the least interesting person in any given situation so people will leave me alone lol

Growing up, I suppose I always thought an interesting person is someone I (or anyone) would want to be around and have conversations with them. Ask them questions about things they like and what their life is like. And no matter what they say, I would still want to keep knowing more about them/the work they do/what their interests are. Someone I would want as a friend.

My entire life before my mid20s I didn't ponder IF I was interesting, I just wanted to come off like I was an interesting person. And then I got a job and grew distant from my friends and IDK...I realized I stopped trying to seem interesting but I still felt/feel insecure. Now that I'm in my mid30s I understand that being an interesting person in the grand scheme of things isn't something I go seeking for validation from others and I've grown tired of trying to impress people or come off a certain way. I just am who I am.

And I feel like I'm not an interesting person. I don't have many friends, the ones I do have I honestly feel like only 1 (maybe 2) of them is a stable friendship, my family life is like...I have parents and siblings. I get along with them but my family isn't...close or up to much. I've never traveled much or dated. Even in fandom spaces, I don't really socialize online unless on Anon (and even then I don't engage a lot).

But I began writing outside of Anon and there have been a couple of people who have DMed me wanting to know more about me. And I wondered why anyone would think I'm interesting? Perhaps, I fear people might not find me so interesting outside of my fandom/pop culture interests.

I'm boring AF.

Me too and I'm happy about it lol.

I think some people find me interesting because I don't have all the socially acceptable filters in place for some things, and because I have done some interesting things in my life.

Whether i'm infinitely or long-term interesting, who knows! I mean, I've had friends for decades and we still find things to talk about, so - interesting enough, I guess.

My idea of 'interesting' definitely includes 'does not incessantly talk about marriage/sexlife/kids/popular ridiculous tv shows/diet/exercise. Those are not itneresting topics to me, so...ymmv.

Edited 2022-03-03 05:05 (UTC)

If you get me started on a topic I'm interested in, sure, I guess I can be interesting. I'm just very introverted and really don't care to interact with others, which makes having any kind of meaningful discussion kind of difficult.

Objectively, no, I'm probably not very interesting; but personally, yes, because I happen to be interested in all of the things that I find interesting.

I don't think I'm very interesting (more like a boring kind of weird) and it's not something I really care about.

I wish I could say I was, but no, I'm definitely not.

I think...hmm, this is complicated. I guess I find when it comes to being interesting, there's a balance between being someone who is active and engaged with things, while also being someone who has a significant amount of personal consistency and interiority. So like, personally I know a few people who are constantly doing things, and at first that seems incredibly interesting. What a life they live, and how brave they are to do all these things! But then over time you realize that none of it is really personal or meaningful to them. They flit from thing to thing and it all slides off them like teflon. And while I admire those people for their proactivity and energy, I ultimately find them no more interesting than anyone. What I truly admire, and find interesting, is people who really dig into their interests and love them, quietly and enduringly.

Also, smart, kind people who listen a lot and don't talk that much are interesting as fuck. I talk too much, and am not kind enough to stand out for being kind. Probably not smart enough to stand out for being smart, either, truth be told.

That said, most straight men think I'm interesting, because I'm good looking, and smart enough to not bore them, and nice enough to make them feel good about themselves, and emotionally unavailable, and a bit damaged. None of that makes me actually interesting in my opinion, but well, I guess that depends on who you ask and what they want from another person.

It depends to whom you're asking this question.
Am I interesting to someone who only speak about sports? Absolutely not.
Am I interesting to someone who's interested in foreign languages? I suppose so, since I speak 4 very different languages.
Am I interesting to someone terminally online who speak only referencing memes and pop culture? Depending on the memes, but probably not so much because I'm way behind the time in term of internet culture.
Am I interesting to someone who want to have a conversation about global (esp. European and Asian) politics and economic affairs? Yes. I have a lot to say and a lot ideas to share and I'm open to learn new stuff.
Am I interesting to someone into religion? DEPENDS. Are they fanatics of their religion of choice or are they curious about other cultures and beliefs? Because I have a background in Asian theology (esp. Buddhism, Taoism and Shintoism) and I'm originally from a Catholic background.

SO YEAH. IT DEPENDS.

I think that what makes an interesting person is what individually interest the people that approach you. It help having a lot of different hobbies and an heterogeneous knowledge, but even then it reeealy depends on your shared and different interest.

I'm the classic single lesbian woman in her 30s who's into fandom culture (but not too much), have some good friends (but not too much), has lived in 3 different countries and prefer passing time alone playing videogames, bigeing on horror movies and TV shows or reading smutty fanfictions. I have no presence online and I'm a generally loner. I'm probably not at all interesting to people who do not know me at least a little bit because I'm very reserved, but for people that know me? Yeah, I do think I'm interesting.

I find people who are into internet/fandom culture and media in general, but are not obsessed by it, the most interesting because we have a common ground but still there is so much to know about so they probably can share something new from me. I also find people from different countries to be interesting (esp. countries very different from my own).
I find people who are only obsessivly into sport or hustle culture to be the least interesting, BUT even then, it depends on the person.
I'm probably the most bored when people can't do any basic critical thinking and are not able to see beyond their range of life experiences/knowledge and think they know everything and they are always right. You can't talk to people like that. BOREDOM INCARNATE.

As a teen I was desperate to be noticed/seen/validated and made up a lot of shit to make me sound interesting and worth the attention.
In retrospect, oh boy, you could probably see the desperation and falseness from a mile.
Graduating HS, starting Uni, maturing into an adult, moving out, living abroad.... and I realised quickly IDGAF if people find me interesting or not, because as an anon above me said, interesting is a different thing for everyone.

Speaking for me, i think i might be interesting to some who share my interests (crafting, manga, anime, fandom), or my way or life / way of looking at life (childfree, no church affiliation, and i often like to talk about current affairs, even though i am not as well informed as i should like. blame phone games.)

I do find people boring who dont have any hobbies or who arent passionate about anything. (I seriously dont get it, what do these people DO in their free time?!). There is a colleague who doesnt read books, doesnt watch (current or older) movies or series. They dont do any sport, play games (unless you count candy crush), theyre not a fan of anything, they dont even collect anything. Theres nothing to share or talk about. Thats a boring person to me. lol.

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