[ SECRET POST #5595 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5595 ⌋

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 35 secrets from Secret Submission Post #800.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

having a taboo against stalking-like behaviors limits the overall occurrence of stalking

I don't agree that what OP did was a "stalking-like" behavior. Also, they weren't doing it publicly while making light of it and talking about how fun it was, so even if you do interpret it as "stalking-like" behavior, OP wasn't eroding the taboo.

[(Anonymous)]

Sure. It's very much up for debate where precisely you draw the line on those things. But I also just am not sure I agree with the idea that it didn't escalate and therefore OP has proven that people were wrong to be uncomfortable with it.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

It didn't escalate because OP made no attempt to act on the information at all. That's what escalation would be, and it didn't happen. People can be uncomfortable with whatever they like, that's a personal feeling, but it's an objective fact that there was no escalation and the celebrity in question is completely unaffected by it.

[(Anonymous)]

See my post below - my phrasing was unclear. I did not mean to imply that it escalated.

[(Anonymous)]

What part was the escalation?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Sorry, my phrasing was unclear. I do not think that it escalated. What I disagree with is the idea that, because it did not escalate, therefore OP has automatically proven that people were wrong to be uncomfortable with it.

I think anyone saying it's some huge evil moral boundary end of the world is probably overreacting, but I also think it's reasonable for people to be uncomfortable with it, because it does push up against some boundaries and some ideas about privacy that we ought to consider valuable, even if no immediate harm is one.

[(Anonymous)]

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What's funny is, I'm more bothered by OP's attitude about it than the fact that they mapped out some celeb's traveling routes and know their home address. It sounds mild compared to flat out doxxing, but they act like they deserve a pat on the back for not completely invading someone's privacy. Just no. Have a little shame about it. Or don't. But don't act shocked that people think it's creepy.

[(Anonymous)]

They are definitely not acting like they deserve a pat on the back. They are saying the people back then who decided to talk about OP like they were some kind of threat for looking something up on the internet can go fuck themselves because it's eleven years later and OP is still not any more of a stalker than any of us.

Sadly, OP, sanctimonious people rarely admit they were wrong.

[(Anonymous)]

So your assumption about OP's intention is somehow more valid? Okay, whatever you say.

[(Anonymous)]

This. We can all infer whatever we want, and have any opinion on this that we want. Positive or negative, supportive or judgmental. But only OP actually knows about their own intentions and actions. They’ve been clear in some regards, but vague in others. So both AYRT’s comment, and the more sanctimonious comments making assumptions are basically on the same level as far as treating pure speculation as objective truth.

I for one believe OP. But that doesn’t mean that AYRT isn’t still making a lot of leaps and reaches based on opinion, not fact.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I may have bought the chloroform and the duct tape, but theyre still gathering dust in the closet next to the binoculars and the detailed timetable of my fave’s daily schedule, so suck it f!s! Totally normal!

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed. In some ways, at least. This secret is honestly a little funny, both in me kinda laughing at them, and me kinda laughing with them. I do understand where they’re coming from in a way, in regards to feeling a bit petty and vindictive about being piled on in the past despite outright saying you were never going to act on something. And I’m glad OP is over it now, and is in good spirits about it, even though I suspect it got to them in the past. Also, I’m definitely not saying the responses OP got in the past weren’t self-righteous and pearl-clutching, especially in the way some flat out ignored OP saying they wouldn’t do anything with the information, and in how others flat out said they refused to believe OP about it.

But all that said, what response was OP actually expecting to the original secret? Maybe some supportive and neutral responses, but did they expect no negative reactions? They honestly should have seen it coming(not that seeing something coming means you deserve the response, of course), and the fact that it surprised and got under their skin a little is baffling to me. Because they themselves knew that they wouldn’t act on this information and that the negative responders didn’t know them enough to say otherwise with any basis. So why didn’t OP just brush off the knee-jerk naysayers? OP bringing the secret back up to “own” the negative responders after all this time with basically “You know that time that I said I wouldn’t use information I looked up about my fave to stalk them, and you didn’t believe me? Well I in fact didn’t stalk them after all, so suck it!” is kinda strange to me. Like, good job staying true to your word and not stalking another human being(and potentially committing a crime)? Not doing something you already had no plans to do isn’t an achievement. So this sense of satisfaction from OP is just so...misplaced, I guess? Maybe that’s not the word I’m looking for?

I didn’t have much of an opinion to the original secret one way or another. And I personally had no reason not to believe them, considering someone who actually intended to stalk someone would have done it immediately after finding out their address and schedule, instead of talking about it to strangers. In my opinion at least. So maybe the fact that I wasn’t one of the naysayers ostensibly being proven wrong is the reason I don’t really get the point of the secret? Or the point of OP’s pride and pettiness to rude comments they got in response to a secret they submitted over 10 years ago?

Idk, but despite scratching my head and laughing a bit about this, I’m still legitimately glad OP is able to look back on mean comments and laugh at them. That’s something not everyone is able to do, no matter how much time has passed. So it’s healthy to not let things like this get to you, if nothing else.