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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2022-11-05 03:42 pm

[ SECRET POST #5783 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5783 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2022-11-05 11:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Asking why you haven't gone for them is not remotely the same as assuming you must want to fuck them if you're hanging out with them, though. I don't think I've ever met a woman who assumed a woman who bothered to hang out with a man must want to fuck him. Women are just aware of the possibility that one might be romantically and/or sexually interested in one's friend, which is entirely valid; one might.

(Anonymous) 2022-11-06 12:38 am (UTC)(link)
Asking why you haven't gone for them is not remotely the same as assuming you must want to fuck them if you're hanging out with them, though.

nayrt but eh, kinda? There's a difference between asking IF you've gone for your friend vs WHY you haven't.

DA

(Anonymous) 2022-11-06 01:05 am (UTC)(link)
IME women are more likely to believe that men only want to be friends with women to eventually fuck them, than men are actually like that. It's probably just the places I hang out online, which are more female- than male-populated, but a lot of women have told other women with male friends that their friends are just being nice to them until they get close enough to ask them out. And if the woman says no, the man will get angry or ghost her. Women have warned other women about this simply for saying they have a friend who is male.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2022-11-06 01:38 am (UTC)(link)
In all fairness, it can be A Problem, at least for some women. Every guy I've ever been friends with--who wasn't also the husband of one of my friends--has wanted to fuck me. Most of them weren't bad guys. Most of them weren't assholes about it when I didn't reciprocate their interest. But ultimately, those friendships ended up hurting both of us and crumbling over time due to them wanting something and me not reciprocating.

I would never personally tell other woman that they should assume the same was true of their male friends. That would be assuming and overgeneralizing to the nth degree, and would be horrible advice. I'm just saying I can see where some women get that perception from; in their own limited experience it may seem like the inevitable truth of the matter.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2022-11-06 01:43 am (UTC)(link)
There are absolutely a lot of men who are like this, though. It's a very common behavior unfortunately.

Re: DA

(Anonymous) 2022-11-06 02:20 am (UTC)(link)
Didn't say there weren't. There still aren't as many as lots of the women I've met say there are, and it's certainly not appropriate for a woman to tell another woman out of nowhere that her male friend is just waiting for the chance to fuck her when she doesn't even know what their friendship is like other than that it exists.