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Re: Vent
(Anonymous) 2023-04-28 09:31 am (UTC)(link)As for me, I want to move out so bad. I want to live alone so much. It scares me that my relative keeps trying to find ways to keep me enmeshed to them and their family.
I wish I had the courage to tell them I hate interacting with them because everything they do and say is about them. They can't ever show up for other people in the ways others would want them to, to feel appreciated and validated.
Instead, they only give attention or care for others if it's about THEM in one way or another.
I hate that they can't just simply say hi or pay someone a compliment unless in their mind they somehow benefit from it or if it's about them, one way or another.
The more I'm around them the angrier I get that my role in their life is just to support them. I don't want their fucking help because I can already see them writing down a list of future favors I "owe" them for their kind heart for doing this one thing I asked of them.
Like, fuck you so hard for making everything in my life feel so fucking transactional.
It's gotten to the point where I will do favors but I go in not expecting anything, focus on that hope that once I'm out, I can cut these people out of my life. Get the task done and move on. Stop expecting favors to be returned, don't expect a "Thanks" (tbh when I get verbal acknowledgment I tend to get mad because I feel like it's not genuine, dont thank me, just stop fucking asking me to do shit for you), don't even bother getting mad or upset because it'll be either explosive fights or me having to coddle the other person's feelings because they got called out and now they feel bad and they're crying and saying sorry and I have to make them feel better.
Like, grow the fuck up you abusive, immature drama machine. Like, seriously, grow the fuck up and stop making your personal failings and struggles everyone else's business.
They have multiple friends/relatives who they constantly talk to about the same fucking problems with every damn day and yet they keep coming to me to talk about the same bullshit with too.
Like, do they see how obsessive they are about talking about themselves and their S/O and their immature abusive relationship?
I feel like I can't tell people jackshit because instead of reacting to what I said they go off on an anecdote about themselves. And it's like, right. Why actually think about what I just said when you can just tell me about how you'd done it or how my "story" reminds you of something tangentially related? Better yet, tell what I'm doing wrong and give me your unaskedfor advice.