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[ SECRET POST #5993 ]

⌈ Secret Post #5993 ⌋

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While I kinda like the concept of a blorbo, I hate the word itself with an ever-growing passion. It just puts me in mind of a big gob of wet phlegm, and in my case, at least, that descriptor only fits a handful of my favorite characters. At least it's not (quite) as infantilizing and twee as "comfort character," though.

I did not know what this was. Now I do and wish I didn't. I hate it so much.

Also hate: "Can be synonymous with scrunkly, scrimblo, or eeby deeby."

I don’t think “comfort character” is an infantilizing term. Everyone needs some comfort sometimes, anyway they can get it, there’s nothing infantile about that. And I like it way better than blorbo, which actually sounds like something an infant would say.

I very much agree. Having a word for the concept of a blorbo is really useful (and also amusing IMO), but the actual word blorbo just sounds so stupid that I feel stupid using it.

I also agree with you about "comfort character" being infantilizing and twee. I have no issue with the sentiment that life is rough and sometimes you need to mainline 200K of your favorite fictional dumbass being a dumbass to get you through--like bitch, me too. It's just the phrasing--"comfort character"--that bugs the heck out of me.

So you get the sentiment that people use characters they like for comfort, but you think calling it something that describes the sentiment perfectly is “infantilizing and twee”? I don’t get this at all.

That's okay, you don't have to get it!

And I don't get how "blorbo" is so awful, yet someone else does and here we are. I also hate something about the particular phrase "comfort character" and find it infantilizing to an infuriating degree despite sympathizing with the concept (I even made a secret about a while back!) Pet peeves are irrational.

I guess so.

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I didn’t mean for this to sound as rude as it did. I meant to come off as confused, not confrontational. That’s my bad.

I have trouble conveying intent with the right words. Sometimes I go back and forth for way too long trying to figure out the right words. Sometimes I think I have it without needing to go over it again and again. But then people seem put off my by my words, and I realize I’ve failed again, and annoyed people. Which is the last thing that I want, but it’s still my fault alone for saying those words in the first place.

That's okay, no worries. For me the words "comfort [thing]" have a connotation, as well as a denotation, and the connotation is very much, "thing that soothes a child at an age when the child isn't capable of self-soothing on their own." Which makes sense because that is generally the context in which people use the term IRL. At least that's how people where I live usually use it.

I find the "Sir, that is my emotional-support character" meme way less annoying because the term "emotional-support [thing]" is not associated heavily with young children, and also it's tongue in cheek. It's relatable, but it's also deliberately underlining the awkwardly trivial nature of most innocuous coping mechanisms, despite how much they can sometimes mean to us.

Thank you for this response, I appreciate it!

When you put it that way, I do understand where you’re coming from. I hadn’t thought about it that way, but it makes total sense.

This word is so awful I actually blocked it. I just hate how it sounds in my head, shape of it.

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