Someone wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets 2023-07-11 08:35 pm (UTC)

DA

To a lot of the people replying, I think this is not a serious matter. At all. It certainly isn't to me. Even if you deliberately, intentionally lied to me about having seen a show or not seen it, I tend to assume that when I ask a question, people have a right to not answer it or reply in a way that doesn't unduly stress them out. I'm trying to have a conversation with them, not interrogate them!

And not everyone who asks "have you watched this thing?" is necessarily being entirely honest about themselves, either. I've occasionally denied having watched things, on purpose, because I got the impression that the other person was trying to trap me with information (relating to explicit, gay media) that they would use against me, as opposed to trying to find out if it was safe to talk about the thing. No one is just across the board OWED honesty, in all situations.

And IMO, there's really no shortcut to figuring out on a case by case basis how far you can trust other people.

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