Most social norms boil down to expectations, backed up by actions. They are collective opinions as opposed to individual points of view, but the likelihood of getting rebuked for obliviously ignoring it is pretty high. All online communities I've ever interacted with have these.
The first person this thread replies to was wondering why people were being hostile. Explanation was provided. Breaking a social norm that has the general implication of "people who don't do this are expressing disrespect to the people listening to them" has the logical consequence that people respond in kind: sharply and harshly.
If the OP had said "I hate kudos. I get discouraged and stop writing when no one praises my fics with actual comments." people would probably be tired of the sentiment, but they'd pull their punches more than when they're hearing "I hate kudos, I work so much when I write and pressing a button is lazy. It's so easy to comment!" I've seen the difference between replies when people feel nagged and replies when people feel like the secret poster has an opinion they don't like but is owning that it's basically their problem.
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The first person this thread replies to was wondering why people were being hostile. Explanation was provided. Breaking a social norm that has the general implication of "people who don't do this are expressing disrespect to the people listening to them" has the logical consequence that people respond in kind: sharply and harshly.
If the OP had said "I hate kudos. I get discouraged and stop writing when no one praises my fics with actual comments." people would probably be tired of the sentiment, but they'd pull their punches more than when they're hearing "I hate kudos, I work so much when I write and pressing a button is lazy. It's so easy to comment!" I've seen the difference between replies when people feel nagged and replies when people feel like the secret poster has an opinion they don't like but is owning that it's basically their problem.