[ SECRET POST #6057 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6057 ⌋

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Re: late night musings

[(Anonymous)]

I'm afraid to name my fandom lol

I was trying to thread words together to try to make sense of it, but I think I just suck at getting my thoughts out cohesively.
I don't want to paint it as "my friend sucked and I don't know why they hurt me".
It was more like I was thinking of a former friend and I realized in the last year of our friendship was when I got into the fandom. And I recall feeling anxious about talking to my friend about the fandom because often our conversations were filled with said friend bringing up harsh criticism of the fandom.
(FTR our friendship ended due to lack of communication and having different interests, it wasn't that I cut them out because they did a big Wrong on me or anything like that)

I think I am wondering if someone complains to me a lot (no matter the topic), if I feel like the complaints are deeper than what is surface level, how do I know if the topic is worth keeping around?

I see that I projected my insecurities onto my friend's comments, and I didn't trust my friend to confront them because in the past it didn't go well.

As for the fandom thing...I think I just want to know why do some fans stick around when it seems like they're mostly focused on the negative stuff?
Because seeing my friend's judgment/complaints made me wonder "why are you still in the fandom if it's so bad and so many fans also suck?"

Like...I'll say we're into The Cheetah Girls. Friend has been a CG fan from the first movie.
I watch the 3rd movie and become a fan from there.
If I say, "I was watching the first Cheetah Girls movie yesterday and I loved that friendship wins in the end lol"
They'll respond with, "the actresses hated each other. Raven couldn't stand Keily and that's why she didn't return."
Me: "oh yeah, read about that, they were teens. But like my best friend and I sing 'one world' all the time, our new theme song"
Friend: "lol they can't stand each other and they're singing about friendship ruling the world. I got the new DVD for One World! So excited to open it and watch it!
Don't tell fans that there were dance doubles or else you'll be called a hater even though it's true."
Me: "I haven't bought the DVDs yet but I saw one for the first movie with the cover signed by Raven Symone on eBay. Might try to buy it!"
Friend: "Disney didn't even promote the DVD releases, but they still sold well because the fandom is that strong! Not that DVD sales mean anything, the stans will say that the first movie sold the most because that's the one with Raven in it. Like, they're just Disney movies."

And then I start thinking, "I don't want to talk about CG or to my friend anymore."

Because even if my friend isn't shading me, I still feel the negative talk and feel like it's directed toward me. Oh it's not directed toward me? But I don't want talk down about othe fans or how the actresses didn't get along or how fake Disney is.
I just wanted to gush about Raven Symone's vocals and the costumes inspiring my own fashion tastes.

And I think my musing was really just, "If I want to revel in the positive stuff, why do I keep ending up in the company of people who want to revel in the negative?"

Not to say that I think those who revel in the negativity are bad people, I need to bitch and vent too, but just that...I don't like harshing on others' vibes but I don't know how to tell people when they're harshing my vibes because I'm afraid people will turn my "You're hashing my vibes" into "no you're hashing my vibes.