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⌈ Secret Post #6179 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I think there are nuances to friendships and ideally many want their friends to be both someone who we can enjoy our interests with and someone we can rely on to listen to our struggles and help uplift us, whether it be personal or professional goals/dreams.

But in reality, most friends can only really be a particular sort of friend. The friend who you catch up with from time to time because you live far apart and your schedules don't match up, but you're both avid con attendees. The friend who you talk to every day and you exchange your day to day stuff, you don't really have the same interests when it comes to hobbies though. The friend you joke with at work but you dont interact outside of work. Etc.

And these are all perfectly fine.

I think an issue we run into is that when someone is going through something difficult, it's really hard to figure out if all your friends will be the type of friends who you can open up to that sort of stuff.

And unless one or both parties state whether or not they are a friend outside of their regular interactions, it leads to oversharing or misunderstandings. And then the whole friendship vibe changes.

Honestly, I feel like the sorts of people who try to differentiate "friend" from "fandom friend" either is someone who doesn't want to let their more fun friend in on their "inner circle" or they are someone who feels a need to do so because they'd been "fandom friend"ed by someone who they thought was a "friend".

I am the latter. I felt terrible that I was trying to talk about personal topics with some friends and they seemed uninterested so I realized that some people who I can gush about fandom stuff with only really value me in that aspect so I need to verbally remind myself that there is a difference between a friend and a fandom friend.