If your parents spent your childhood telling you that you weren't that smart and shouldn't try things because you'd obviously fail, the problem started before you were an adult.
Like my mom still reminds me to take a towel swimming but that's because she knows what our family is like. I also remind her to take a towel swimming. Because we often forget things like towels. Neither of us thinks we're infantilizing each other when we show care. But also even when I was a toddler she treated me as someone who was smart and capable and always learning new things and getting better, and that didn't change when I turned 18 either.
I'm sure for a lot of people their parents not seeing them as adults is a problem, especially when they're new adults, but a lot of times when I'm listening I'm thinking to myself really, the problem is they didn't like or respect you when you were a kid, either.
Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?
Like my mom still reminds me to take a towel swimming but that's because she knows what our family is like. I also remind her to take a towel swimming. Because we often forget things like towels. Neither of us thinks we're infantilizing each other when we show care. But also even when I was a toddler she treated me as someone who was smart and capable and always learning new things and getting better, and that didn't change when I turned 18 either.
I'm sure for a lot of people their parents not seeing them as adults is a problem, especially when they're new adults, but a lot of times when
I'm listening I'm thinking to myself really, the problem is they didn't like or respect you when you were a kid, either.