My mom "helicopter"ed me when I was younger, but I also got a lot of 'you're too smart to not be doing xyz' or 'you're lazy and not trying' blah blah blah, 'you need to grow up' 'peter pan syndrome' etc........ and like. Her help was very Conditional. I only was worthy of it if she saw me desperately struggling. Once I was able to push myself into independence and broke free, suddenly it was 'OH NO, YOU DONT HAVE TO DO ALL OF THAT I'LL HELP YOU DON'T WORRY ABOUT A THING'
then I got diagnosed with ASD a few months ago
BOY HOWDY I could only *WISH* she went back to that crazy shit from yesteryears, because I was at least familiar enough with it to know how to tune her out and shit. But here I am again, at 38 years old, and she treats me like I'm a whole preteen. Granted, I also kinda have very, uh. Teenager coded habits (like my hobbies and my personality when I'm not masking) but this time I truly think she believes I'm incompetent lol. But now it's go time for me to grow up yet again so we'll see what happens.
Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?
then I got diagnosed with ASD a few months ago
BOY HOWDY I could only *WISH* she went back to that crazy shit from yesteryears, because I was at least familiar enough with it to know how to tune her out and shit. But here I am again, at 38 years old, and she treats me like I'm a whole preteen. Granted, I also kinda have very, uh. Teenager coded habits (like my hobbies and my personality when I'm not masking) but this time I truly think she believes I'm incompetent lol. But now it's go time for me to grow up yet again so we'll see what happens.