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Curious how many FSers are trans or identify as nonbinary.

I generally call myself genderqueer or genderfluid if forced to have a label.

AFAB & identify as female

I don't think of myself as any gender, and just go along with whatever cause it's easier. I guess that makes me non-binary or something, but I just don't care about it. At all.

That's where I'm at. I sometimes call myself "female bodied" because that is true but mentally I just don't care, but also don't really feel like "female" is a proper label. NB doesn't feel right either. I don't care enough to choose, I guess?

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(Anonymous) - 2025-07-01 00:05 (UTC) - Expand

It only makes you nonbinary if you want it to. A lot of cis people say what you do, and the fact that you go along with being the gender that's easier, which will always in this world be your assigned birth gender, means you don't want it to make you nonbinary. If going along with what was easier became less easy as time went on until you started to question whether it WAS still easier, then we'd say you might want to consider that you may not be cis.

I don't want to assume you're one of the ones commenting "I guess this makes me nonbinary" but it does sound a lot like the cis people out there who think trans people are pressuring them to be trans just by expressing some personal feelings about their own gender that happen to align with what the cis person feels about theirs.

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(Anonymous) - 2025-07-01 21:26 (UTC) - Expand

I gave my gender as "lawful neutral" for awhile when forced to identify. I don't really lean one way or the other but I'm also not going to bother to change any paperwork or make any waves.

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(Anonymous) - 2025-07-02 06:25 (UTC) - Expand

Nonbinary here. What flavor of nonbinary tends to fluctuate.

transdude post-top-surgery. I'm also over 50. I wish I could say I have zero fucks on trans issues in fandom but sadly I have to have a few thanks to being fetishized irl to my face.

Really appreciate hearing from you, I don't know any trans men your age (I'm 30, know a few trans mascs my age) and sometimes feel really lonely or self conscious about not being able to picture the future, if that makes sense. It's awesome to hear from a trans guy older than me who's still active in fandom as well!

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(Anonymous) - 2025-07-01 04:47 (UTC) - Expand

total cissy here (am female)

Genderfluid with a baseline of agender most of the time.

I once said that if I could choose my sex at birth it definitely wouldn't be the one I ended up with and someone said that sounds like I'm trans. But I disagreed because I don't care enough to do anything about it. Like if there were a magic button that could 100% change my gender I'd hit it without a thought, but irl? Don't care.

agender, which is a kind of nonbinary/genderfluid label. afab

Sometimes I call myself trans because of my connections to the trans community and because I have similar problems in that transphobia affects me and I use trans healthcare. Explaining my whole situation is too complicated and boring, I have a medical thing where transition was just the path that made most sense to me, since I don't care what gender people think I am.

I don't really identify as trans though and a lot of trans community stuff or trans experiences are very unrelatable for me.

Cis woman and happy to be considered as such but I also don’t think about my gender identity much at all for the most part. I’m just me.

I've always assumed most cis people don't think about their gender identify much at all. Kind of like how I assume most straight people don't think about that much either.

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(Anonymous) - 2025-07-01 09:28 (UTC) - Expand

Cis people don't really question their gender, just like Neurotypicals don't question whether or not they're autistic/ADHD.

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(Anonymous) - 2025-07-01 09:26 (UTC) - Expand

On one hand that's more than I expected, on the other impossible to tell proportionally ig since it feels a little weird to reply here saying you're not

Uhh I meant nothing wrong with being or not being, only that the question as phrased sought affirmative responses so saying "hi there popping into inform you i'm not" feels awkward

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I'm nonbinary, would generally say like, genderfluid or androgyne to people who ask for further detail. Also transsexual, have been on hrt for like 10 years and had a couple surgeries. (Specifying only bc people sometimes assume nonbinary and medically transitioning are mutually exclusive. Not assuming bad intent but the way the question is worded "are trans or identify as nonbinary" sounds like it might be doing that.)

More of a cis woman or agender I guess. I don't feel connected to being a woman. I would like not to be seen as one (but it can be body image issues). But also I am absolutely not a man

Trans guy, been frequenting FS since before I figured all that out.

I'm agender. Sometimes I prefer to say nonbinary depending on my mood. The former is just a subset of the latter to me. (Yes I know some people don't feel the same and no I'm not here to argue.)

Assuming from downthread that you also want to hear from FSers who aren't, hi.

Gender stereotypes have little relevance to my life, but it's always been clear to me (and everyone else) that my body is female. I wasn't thrilled to develop curves and periods as a teenager, but mainly because there was nothing adults did with themselves that I was eager to become a part of. And IME, it hasn't been bad: I still engage with fandom, and it's not like someone will come try to remove your vagina just because you wear pants and the face you were born with indefinitely, instead of putting on makeup and dresses.

I do feel bad for men who worry they'll be humiliated or attacked if they wear bright colors, grow their hair out, or paint their fingernails, but I just see that as a reason to challenge sex-based pigeonholing of people.

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