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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2025-07-22 06:14 pm

[ SECRET POST #6773 ]


⌈ Secret Post #6773 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2025-07-23 01:51 am (UTC)(link)
Like damn, we don't even have to bring abortion into this. Normalize people wanting kids and then realizing after the baby is born that they don't actually want this and that's okay. Fund services for potential adopters to help ensure they'll be good parents. Being against adoption is a weird way to solve the problem of bad parenting. Imagine an organization of people from shitty homes with their birth parents called Bio Kids Against Bio Families. I bet there could be a thousand times as many members for all the kids who grew up with bad parents. But there isn't one because that's plainly ridiculous. The problem isn't adoption or no adoption. Adoptees Against Adoption sounds like a very immature group.

DA

(Anonymous) 2025-07-23 02:32 am (UTC)(link)
it seems like OP is a die hard proponent or supporter of this group. And don't seem to be taking anyone's view but there's as correct.

(Anonymous) 2025-07-23 11:16 am (UTC)(link)
The 100-fold higher participation in Bio Kids Against Bio Families was more or less the take I walked away with from the one conversation I've had with an irl acquaintance who was fervently Adoptees Against Adoption. As someone raised by abusive bio parents, and not having much of an opinion on adoption at that point, I went into it extremely sympathetic... ...all of which was annihilated the further along this conversation went as I discovered that her "abusive" foster parents were slightly strict? At worst? Maybe showed some mild favouritism toward their one bio kid? But all the hallmarks of being physically abusive and neglectful were there for her bio parents, even though she tried to excuse them and paint the rosiest picture possible. It was just tragically, terribly naive: she had no idea what it was like to suffer through the childhood I had (like bitch you're mad about them telling you no to a hobby they don't like? have you ever had a rock thrown at your head and been locked in your room for 48 hours and pissed in a bottle? you don't think my parents didn't favour my brothers, egregiously?) she just thought being ~biological family~~~ would magically turn everything into unicorns and rainbows if only they ~~had more support~~. She genuinely didn't know that her bio parents could lie and make excuses for themselves after the fact, and took everything they said to her as the truth.

I walked out of that one 100% diehard proponent of adoption. Nobody is entitled to a child, not even if they gave birth to it: children are separate human beings with human rights entitled to safety, shelter, and affection. If you can't provide that, someone who will should raise them. Period.

(Anonymous) 2025-07-24 12:49 am (UTC)(link)
a lot of adoptees blame their adoption for 100% of problems in their lives. people who are raised by their two biological parents and were wanted can have the same problems. but adoptees will blame the adoptive parents and act like if only their bios had kept them they'd have a 100% perfect life and the only thing that went wrong was the adoption. and that's just a silly way of looking at it tbh. like you said they literally think their live would be rainbows and unicorns if bio parents had kept them