[ SECRET POST #1046 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1046 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

THIS goes into effect starting with Submissions Post 151, as secrets were posted before the poll went up last week.

Secrets Left to Post: 15 pages, 353 secrets from Secret Submission Post #150.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 2- not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [
1 2 3 4 5 6 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Hold on, where did the OP even say that? The gist of the secret is that she feels frightened and is afraid to trust any men. That's an overreaction, sure, but IMHO it's an understandable reaction if she's led a sheltered life and only just now was exposed to these statistics. (And no, it is NOT the same as saying "I'm afraid of black people," Jesus Fucking Christ.) I see other people in this thread wielding variants of that phrase, but the usual meaning behind that is not "all men are rapists" or "all men are inherent rapists" but, yes, "all men [you come across] are potential rapists." That's something a lot of women (I don't want to say most because I don't know) have in the back of their minds always as a safety precaution.

And maybe it's hurtful for men to hear that and I'm sorry, but that's the reality of a lot of women's lives. We're living our own lives and then bam, something threatening comes along to shake us out of the safety bubble. I had to change my grocery store this week because an employee kept giving me this look of ice cold hatred the likes of which I last saw coming from a different man who ended up attempting to injure me and rape my friend. The last straw was when grocery store guy pointedly stood in the middle of the parking lot and watched me the entire time I walked back to my car in the dark. Fuck yes I was afraid, who wouldn't be? But what am I gonna do, tell the manager he gave me a funny look? So much of it is gut feeling and a little bit of healthy paranoia. If you want another example? I can't take a certain bus line here in town because there's one man always on it who followed me for eight blocks straight the last time I got off it. Another? All the girls at my college campus knew not to be alone in the library stacks on a certain floor because it was out of view and this one man used to try to fondle young women there. There's things like that all the time: avoid this, don't go there, don't be alone at night. I feel so frustrated and infuriated that my life contains these few little seconds of fear every now and then just because I'm a woman.

Most men are wonderful and I've been in love with one for years! I just wish I could make you understand. I think a lot of men just don't get it because they're good guys and of course they're friends with other good guys, so that's all they know of men. They don't encounter the staggering number of utterly repulsive creepos on a week-to-week basis.

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I think I understand some of it due to being gay and visibly gender variant, for which I get a lot of shit from straight guys, but obviously not to the degree that women do. I feel like there's a lot of miscommunication going on -- I'm a gender studies nerd, I've read Dworkin, I appreciate the examples you've listed above and understand that women face these issues regularly -- I just think that making a statement as inflammatory at the OP's is wrong, unproductive, and hateful.

[(Anonymous)]

I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree? The OP, if not a troll, is majorly overreacting! No, men as a whole don't deserve to be tarred with that brush. I also don't think she'll hold such an extreme viewpoint for very long, at least I hope not. But honestly it just bugged me to see a secret which said "I'm afraid of men, and I'm afraid I'll never be able to trust" and a response which said "you're being mean to men, you misandrist!" :\

[(Anonymous)]

I want to point out that all men you come across are not potential rapists. You have a responsibility to treat them as potential rapists, but that doesn't mean that they in fact are. A minor distinction, but it's important I think.