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What are your opinions on giving and receiving gifts between employee and boss?

Do you expect your workplace or boss or coworkers to give you anything if you/they celebrate the holidays? Do you give gifts to coworkers? Do you think there should be any expectations?

My opinions on this matter is lengthy, so no need to read beyond this if you're not interested in my thoughts.

As an employee, I never expect a gift (not even a card), but am always grateful when I do get something from my boss. I've had some bosses who are more generous or thoughtful than others. I have no expectations.

Between coworkers, if I have someone I get along with well at work, I give them a card. If we're more friendly or are actual friends, I will gift them a small stocking stuffer item.

As a backup lead, I feel obligated to give the team members at least a card, but most times I can afford a small stocking stuffer (at minimum). For leads/backups/specialists on other shifts that have helped me (my 2 direct bosses), I usually give them a card.

Last year I only gave cards to the team members because I was trying to exercise not going above and beyond to prove I'm a good person. This year I'm returning to giving small gifts with the cards. Gift giving is a love language of mine, and I really appreciate a lot of people I work with.

I asked my mom if she expected anything from her bosses, she said she didn't, but she knows her workplace always throws a holiday meal. The food is usually good and the company usually provides a few gifts. But her direct bosses, she says she never expects anything.

Thought it was interesting and I wonder what other people's expectations are?

One of my friends says his workplace throws a huge office party and sometimes it leads to a huge dinner at an expensive restaurant. WFH employees don't get to participate unless they pay for their own plane tickets and accommodations to headquarters, nor do they get any sort of gift or early time off to make up for missing out. He got to experience the office parties for a couple years, and for the past two, he's been WFH.

My workplace doesn't throw an office party but I'd take work off or call in just to avoid the party.

Can't say I've ever expected anything purely for being an employee/coworker.

If someone expected a gift from me "because we're coworkers" I'd think they're weird, honestly

I work in a non-standard industry and it's pretty normal for a holiday/end of year bonus to be given. Often that's the equivalent of one weeks pay, but really can be any amount. Actual physical gifts are rarer.

I think that in general it’s flat out wrong for an employee to gift anything to their boss or anyone in their hierarchy. Other than that, it depends on the workplace.

My work place gives us a Christmas bonus. My boss, specifically, usually buys us little presents and takes us out to lunch as a team.

I choose to buy small things for my team. I got my boss a sassy calendar during the black friday sales. I hit up the dollar store for clear espresso mugs, which I've tied with ribbon and filled with a battery powered tea light and a couple of chocolates for the rest of the team. They'll get cards too.

But that's all my choice. I don't HAVE to do any of that. One of my teammates usually bakes for us, and the other buys like those three-packs of lindt chocolates. We have a new team member this year and she's been told that she doesn't have to do anything if she doesn't want to, in terms of gifts/cards/what not. It's not an expectation.

I've never worked in corporate spheres but my partner has. No one ever gave anyone gifts. NO ONE. They didn't even do cutesy secret santas or anything. And that was before the pandemic and remote work, now no one even sees each other to give enough of a shit to swap gifts.

In retail and small business, there's at least a 50/50 chance the immediate circle you're in will have enough of a friendly atmosphere that a secret santa or white elephant might be fun, but even back when I was a kid in the 80s I know neither of my parents' workplaces had anything like that. My dad was an accountant so I think I remember they had Ye Ole Company Party like in sitcoms but no actual gifting atmosphere or expectation. And that's in the upper midwest, where we like finding excuses for courtesy!

I don't think there should be any expectations of gift-giving in the workplace. Voluntary Secret Santas can be nice, depending on the participants. I like giving small gifts to people I'm close to, but I don't have that kind of relationship with most of my co-workers. Huge office parties or family parties for employees seems like such an old-fashioned thing to do, more common back when companies provided more benefits and people tended to stay in one place for longer - or maybe their entire career.

But if I were the boss and I had the money and discretion to do so, it'd be year end bonuses, personalized cards, and lunch is on me. I would not expect gifts in return because it'd feel wrong for people who probably earn a lot less than I do to be buying me presents. A homemade crafty type gift, a plate of cookies, a funny mug with some candy, that sort of thing would be more than enough, and I'd be touched. But I wouldn't expect it.

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