[ SECRET POST #6968 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6968 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

For most of human history living in a multi-generational household was normal. For the people who can live with their family, it's a great way to save money for everyone and should have always been a social norm.

[(Anonymous)]

And in many cultures it's STILL the norm. It's the US that is weird on that front.

[(Anonymous)]

1) the us is really, really not the only place where that's normal 2) I've heard enough stories about how older generations in intergenerational-living cultures expect to have complete control over EVERY aspect of the younger generations' lives, for as long as they live, to be grateful that I don't live in one of those societies

[(Anonymous)]

For most of human history, people weren’t living 80-90 years.

[(Anonymous)]

Sure they were. If you survived past the teens, you could usually expect to die around 60s-70s with 80s-90s not being unheard of. Long enough to get a good multi-generational household going, especially if you have kids in your 20s. Life expectancy is not the average age an adult could expect to live; it gets pulled down by infant mortality.

[philstar22]

Yes, actually, it was relatively common. The life expectancy rates of earlier time periods are very skewed by the massively high infant mortality rates. If you lived into adulthood, you had a good chance of living to a decently old age.

[(Anonymous)]

Social norms encourage abusive relationships. Fuck off on that, fuck all the way off.

[(Anonymous)]

No kidding 🥲 I work in a department with 5 other people, and quite literally ALL of us are either living with a parent or have an adult child living with us. One person is actually living with a parent, two of her adult kids, and two of her grandkids. Another has her adult daughter and her daughter's partner, plus her partner's children, living with her and her husband. Well, our manager doesn't really count because she can afford her own place, she just chooses to live with her mother. But still. It's just not really an insult these days the way it used to be. Times are fucking hard and living with your parents is simply the only option for a lot of people because housing costs are unattainable.

[(Anonymous)]

Nobody should have to, though. Housing should be a human right.

[(Anonymous)]

This!

[(Anonymous)]

YES.

[(Anonymous)]

I think there's a stereotype heavily promoted in the US that the generations cannot get along under the same roof, and that multi-generation families are always cauldrons of tension. Which of course does happen, but honestly I don't think it happens nearly as often as we're told.

One of the main reasons I never left is I actually *like* my parents. (And my grandmother when she was with us.) They're kind, funny, interesting people.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I live with my parents now since they're both in their 80s and while they're in good health overall, they need help with some basic household stuff just because they're older. I don't mind living with them because like you, my parents are interesting people and I love getting to have conversations with them about things. They're people I would enjoy talking to and being around even if we WEREN'T related.

[(Anonymous)]

If I liked my parents and we got along like friends do, I wouldn't mind living with them and helping them with things as they get older. This system would be great for older people who have plenty of money but can't keep up with stuff like household maintenance, driving, managing finances, etc. The younger generation could assist with that, in exchange for financial support and a comfortable, safe living situation.

My parents aren't like that, unfortunately. That cauldron of tension you speak of... yeah, that's what it's like. Only the cauldron would erupt in fights and yelling on a regular basis. I love them, and I see them in moderation because that's best for everyone. If I had to live with them, the uneasy truce of our relationship would blow up in our faces.

[(Anonymous)]

Happy to hear you weren't in an abusive relationship, unlike some of us, who needed to get out and stay out. Fuck you.

[(Anonymous)]

Therapy. Now.

[(Anonymous)]

I love my parents but I would not want to live with them.

[(Anonymous)]

Same, and in my case I had to leave at 18 to go to university, as there weren't any where I grew up. But my younger family members all still live with their parents and it seems to be 100% normal for the 18-25 year olds, and not so weird after that. And they seem to get along fine, so maybe my generation is the outlier!

[(Anonymous)]

I do wish I could get away or at least taken the chance to leave for a few years when I went to college in my 20s.
I'm unemployed, struggling to find work and a carer to my parents and brother - so its like its too late to leave and even if I get a job, it has to be part time so I can keep up with caring and so many people at job interviews have straight up told me that they don't want someone like me (essentially not being devoted to be ready to drop everything 24/7 for a 12 hour or 20 hour job).
Honestly looking after family and looking forward to fandom interests have literally been the only things to keep me from being done with everything.