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Do you live in one? If so, do you like it? Would you be open to living that way?

I would love to live in a multi-generational household, but my mother and grandmother refuse to leave Oklahoma and I refuse to go back.

I'm thankful that I don't live with my parents anymore. Growing up, I couldn't wait to get out of my house. My parents were neurotic micromanager types, nothing I did was ever good enough, they thought wanting privacy meant I was up to no good, and I just never had any peace while I was living at home. It'd be the same now, even though I'm an adult. They can't help themselves and wouldn't even try to stop because they can't admit they're being unreasonable. If I had to do this, they'd nag me to account for every minute of my day, ever dollar I earned/spent and whatever I did, it'd be the wrong way to do it and they'd tell me the RIGHT way and then nag and belittle me if I didn't follow orders. I'd be treated like I'm too stupid to walk and chew gum at the same time, but simultaneously expected to succeed in a high-earning career while handling the majority of the chores and yardwork because they're too old to do it themselves and too cheap to pay someone to do it for them.

I'd be miserable. I don't care that it's cultural and normal for some countries, I'd hate it with every fiber of my being.

+1, I'm sure it works for a lot of people in various ways, but it certainly wouldn't work for me. And it doesn't work for everyone from those cultures, either! Just like separate living doesn't work for everyone from my culture.

I live in one, but I wish I could move out. I love my family, but my parents still try and treat me like I'm a teenager instead of a full-grown adult who pays rent. I couldn't afford to live on my own though, so I'd rather live with my parents instead of roommates.

Yep, that's the problem for a lot of people. In order for the multi-generaitonal household to work, the parents have to accept their children as peers and equals, because you're all pulling together to make this work. But many parents can't handle that. Mine included.

Same.
I chose this mostly because I don't think that I care for roommates more. And some horror stories do not make it better. (For example my addict cousin brought in her thug bf to her rental whitout knowledge of her roommate. And yes, they were stupid enough to steal from her)
But damn I wish I could live without constant clownery my parents bring.

I left at 18 and would never, ever go back. I thought I would have to at one point in my 20s when I was seriously ill, but fortunately could stay with my partner instead.

I swore to never move back to a rural area again because I was so miserable, but if you're a full-grown adult with your own transport and making your own decisions, it's actually great here and I love it. And I like my parents, but we get on much, much better living four hours apart.

Yes in that I live with my mother. Prior to my dad's passing two years ago, I lived with both parents. Right now mom and I take care of each other, and the kitty takes care of both of us.

Yup, and it's pretty great? We get along well and don't get in each other's way. Chores are split up so no one person has to do them all, and I do most of the heavy lifting, tech/appliance stuff, and anything outbound like making appointments since their English is not the best. I also do half the cooking and house sit if they're out.

There's nothing inherently wrong with multigenerational living, it's all up to whether you get along with your family or not. I don't think I'd want to live with parents post-marriage because in-laws in the same house are awkward, but it'd be nice to move into a duplex or something with them so I could keep helping out with the above things.

We are currently passing my MIL around among her children because she grates on people's nerves. I wish my SIL had kept her duplex that her mother lived in! (She got married and moved into a house. Good for her, but ugh.)

I don't hate my MIL and she's not a bad person, but she's getting very dependent on other people to conform to her schedule and whims and dinner preferences and she drives us all up the wall after a while. She really should be in assisted living but nobody wants to pull the trigger.

For the most part, I really do enjoy living with my family. Living alone is HARD, living with my mom and sisters means no one person is stuck making three meals a day for one, doing all the laundry, keeping an entire house clean, doing all the necessary grocery shopping, etc, on top of work demands, disability issues, and so on and so forth. If one person is doing a load of laundry, other people can throw a couple things in. One person might plan a week's worth of meals, then another person will do a grocery run for the whole house, and whoever has the time and energy will do the cooking of those meals.

You get a really nice division of labor when you live with other adults who you are used to living with and love being around! Cooking for my family makes me happy (as does being fed a home-cooked meal by someone in my family)!

The only reason I want to move out is that there's a conflict in disability needs between 'needs to be able to keep a pet for emotional support but also regulating my schedule around their needs' and 'has severe allergies and can't live with an animal'-- if I want pets, one of us has to move.

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