I feel really bitter how my former online friend group went from being hardcore antis who obsessively called people out, to more "neutral" now.

I'm glad their opinions changed, but the herd mentality is why I don't feel comfortable talking to them anymore. I had to pretend to be an anti for years because I was terrified of getting doxxed or told that I deserved my trauma, and now they arbitrarily stopped caring about discourse.

Better late than never, but the scars of being too scared to express my opinions are still there.