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My parents were hippies and up until I was three we lived in a one-room off grid farmhouse with an orchard and pond and they rented the acreage to neighboring ranchers to graze their cattle, and a lot of their friends lived off the grid for a lot longer and we'd visit and stay with them a lot.

Plus I dislike the greige minimalist aesthetic where step one is to get rid of anything mismatched or colorful and step two is to buy all-new matching greige everything.

But the fascist-leaning, tradwife cottagecore stuff is a fantasy, too, that doesn't acknowledge the downsides of stuff like how much fucking work farm and off-grid living is, or that if your only income is from selling homemade jam because your husband doesn't want you working in an office, leaving him will be a lot harder, or that you can't treat every illness with dried herbs and essential oils — so much tradwife stuff comes bundled with woo. Plus just an amazing amount of ignorance and/or looking for a gullible audience, like that one tradwife photoshoot with the obligatory perfectly-made-up blonde woman in a flowy dress picking obvious giant supermarket strawberries ... out of a tree, captioned "I was born to pick fruit in the woods, not to work retail" or some shit like that.

If you're actually growing all your own food, that's subsistence farming and it sucks to do. And there's no such thing as vibe-canning, that way lies botulism. Foraging is likewise dangerous; no that carrot lookalike is hemlock or hogweed and that's before you get into mushrooms. Actually living in a little cottage in the woods is a lot of work.

The person I knew who stuck it out longest and had a picture-perfect Victorian witchy cottage in the woods was a real-estate agent and when we'd go visit, some summers my mom would help her dig a new outhouse hole and move the outhouse. The (cold) water was plumbed in from a tarp-lined hole up the hill and wasn't safe to drink, and the nearest doctor was 40+ miles away, ditto the nearest grocery store. Her kid married a doctor and moved to Chicago.

I asked my mom about canning once and she fondly reminisced about the 200+ trees in the orchard on the farm, how delicious the jam was, and then stopped and added "it's not worth it, though; I'm never canning anything again."

One day visiting some off-grid friends, being handed a pairing knife and attacking stacked flats of peaches taller than me until I felt like I'd never not be sticky or covered in fruit flies proved her point.

Tl;dr: There's nothing wrong with the aesthetic; the tradwife/lifestyle fantasy that often gets bundled with it is the fascist-adjacent part.

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