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I know this is largely because I lost my job, but I just feel so discouraged and hopeless about everything. It's kind of been building up for awhile, but that's really pushed me over. I haven't thought about anything else except for that. Nothing makes me happy, I'm just feeling like I'm in suspended animation and going through the motions. I feel like I've been stuck in a rut for over a decade. And the general state of the world is just so horrifically depressing. I know things have always been that way, really, but now with the internet and technology I know about horrible things that are happening to people all over the world. I'm NOT suicidal, not at all, BUT I do sometimes think that if a bomb took me out or I died in a car accident it wouldn't be all bad. I just don't currently have any sort of "zest for life" or anything that really inspires me, nothing I'm looking forward to. I'm also in a shitty romantic relationship, so that's nothing that helps, in fact it makes it all WORSE because I'm unhappy with this individual but I lack the capability to split up. I'm just so tired. Not physically tired, but mentally and emotionally tired. Well, and kind of physically tired too, but that's not the main problem.

First, I'm so sorry, nonny. I've been there a lot recently too, and it really sucks. I really hope things get better for you (and the world) and that you find some hope and joy again.

For me, my kitty helps a lot. Before she was in my life, I would either go to a cat cafe or volunteer at a local shelter that let people go in and either walk the dogs or socialize the cats. Being around animals always helps me. Even visiting a zoo. A membership at the Boston aquarium got me through law school. When I was stressed I'd go and watch the penguins.

I also watch hopeful media. things that brighten my spirit. Not depressing things, things with at least some level of hopefulness.

And I find someone to talk to, whether that is a therapist or a fellow attorney who I can commiserate with. Just letting things out can be so helpful. I highly recommend seeing a therapist. I have depression, it makes me flat. I can tell when I'm in a bad period, even with my antidepressant, and need to go back to the therapist. And my mother just got put on an antidepressant temporarily. It isn't a lifelong illness for her the way it is for me, but she's struggling right now. Medication can really help sometimes to get you out of a bad place, even if you only need it for a little while.

Thank you, I appreciate it a lot. I know I'm MUCH better off than many because I'm not in a dire situation; I'm not in immediate danger of losing my housing and I don't have dependents to have to care for, but still really, REALLY sucks. As a kid, I thought, what's so bad about unemployment?? You don't have to work! That sounds great! But as an adult, I find that it really, really sucks. I'm NOT enjoying my time off, it feels really bad.

I do have a cat, and she is definitely one of the brightest spots in my life. She is one of the reasons why I would NEVER off myself; we have a little codependent relationship going on, and I cannot stand the thought of her looking for me for the rest of her life. Absolutely immediately no. I do also enjoy feeding and watching for a stray cat. He's been so skittish and runs at the sight of people, but he has slowly gotten more used to us, and it's just honestly so sweet and rewarding to see how he has gotten to the point where, while he still keeps his distance, he doesn't immediately take off and hide at the sight of us.

I'll have to look for some good hopeful media to watch. I've kind of destroyed my attention span, as sad as that is, and I have a hard time sitting through a movie or even a 40 minute TV show without scrolling or picking up my Switch or something. (The depression has been building up for awhile, honestly.) But I think that would be helpful, to do that instead of sitting here scrolling through Reddit.

I do need to find someone to talk to. That's part of the problem, that I don't have anyone like that. My mom is great, but she worries so much that I hate to burden her with too much. My partner is a terrible listener and wants to find an immediate solution without hearing me out about why that solution might not be so great, and then gets mad when I don't immediately follow through with said solution. So it's tough.

I really might need medication. I'm hesitant to do that... but I think it might be necessary. I haven't been quite right in a long time now.

Comedy can help. I find things like Whose Line is it Anyway work well when I'm in short attention span mode. Also youtube videos can be good, though I have to be careful about what I pick.

And seriously, it isn't bad or weak to need medication. Mental health is as important as physical health, and treatment really can help, even for a short time.

I feel you on your mother. I'm careful with how much I tell her too. I'm super overprotective of her, and I don't want her worrying about me. That's why I find therapists and people who do what I do helpful. I can just vent and let it out without worrying I'm hurting someone.

If you can, take a break from the news and get out into nature. It sounds corny, but there is some evidence that being around trees helps boost your serotonin levels. Bring a little treat or something and have coffee and a donut while looking for the first signs of spring.

On the less fun side, try to keep your diet and sleep cycle healthy, because that'll help. I don't want to pry about why you can't leave your relationship, but... being in a bad relationship can be an invisible drain on your mental health. If finances or something else is keeping you there, maybe have a brainstorm about what would have to happen to enable you to get free of this person. If it's an emotional reluctance, sometimes people who free themselves of a bad relationship are surprised by how much lighter and happier they feel, because they didn't realize how much it was bringing them down.

Good luck and I hope things get better for you, nonny.

I like your idea of getting into nature! That honestly sounds amazing, with some coffee and just sitting there and existing for a little while. I think that would help a lot.

The relationship is, well, it's something I know I need to deal with, I have just let it go and let it go and now I feel like I would be blindsiding my partner to end things. It's definitely draining my mental health. I don't feel that I can talk to my partner in a constructive way about the job situation which is a red flag all on its own. But if I want to be happy again - and I do - I can't stay in this relationship. And clearly I am going to have to be the one to end it. So that is something I need to work through, but I just have been totally unable to deal with them right now with the job situation going on.

I feel you. I've lost a job in a year I was becoming 40. The job sucked and I should have ditched it earlier, but this made my depression just worse.
I am aroace and have no partner, so that's fun too.
There were many factors in. The short version I was so damn low.
Things that helped me the most - making plans. For job search - yeah, it's mainly sucks ass, but also I had fun going to different weird places. Finding free or cheap things I can do. Going outside the city. And everything had to have a plan so I was in control of something.

I like the idea of finding things to do - cheap/free things obviously. Planning, that's a good idea, might help me too, just so I have SOMEthing going on, vs laying in bed all day.

Good luck!

I live in a big city so I have a lot of opportunities.
One of my favourites I had a project just making photos in libraries - we have really beautiful libraries here. Also chilling with a book is great. But I had The Mission and it was essential

So sorry you've been dealing with all of this. It takes patience and remembering that you won't feel better right away.

Take pride in little victories and in small moments of happiness, even if a day had more bad than good if there was some good that's something to celebrate. I get depressed when I'm out of work too. Routines and hobbies have been life savers for me.

I don't know your situation with your relationship but I hope you can make a change soon, an unhappy relationship can really make things harder.

Thank you, I appreciate it. I feel like lately most of my hobbies have fallen away and I just sit here and doomscroll on the internet, which obviously isn't ideal. So actually doing something would be good for me, even if it's not something super productive, if I at least do something vs scroll Reddit all day, I think I'd feel better mentally. The problem is that scrolling Reddit feels good in the moment, heh.

What I really ought to do is a big cleaning/throwing things away project.

funny how your post doesn't get deleted but Suicidal Anon's constantly disappear.

Sounds like you've got a lot going on nonny. I'm sorry you're feeling down. The state of the world doesn't make existing in earth an easy task.

In terms of doing things for yourself, I agree that spending time outside helps. Hearing nature, seeing the sky/clouds, feeling wind or the heat of the sun.

What also helped me a lot more than I thought imaginable was watching the SNL/Lonely Island "Dear Sister" skit. If I felt numb or just crummy, I'd put the skit on and laugh my ass off.
Finding something that you enjoy, no matter how brief, at least buys you a moment or two to be outside of your regular.

I’ve heard that it's hard to leave bad relationships. I imagine it's hard to do it in one grand gesture where you're walking out the door as you announce your departure.
But reality is life is more complicated than that. If you want to leave, or are considering it, start making an exit plan. It can just be a plan you have in your head.
But should you decide to leave, you have a plan.

This might be a little on the corny/cringe side but telling myself affirmations have helped me.
When I'd lost my job and was unemployed for a couple years, I reminded myself constantly that having a job does not define me/a human being. Simply existing is enough.

I wish you the best. ♡

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