[ SECRET POST #1148 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1148 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[iiiskaaa.livejournal.com]

I wasn't being sarcastic, but "selfish" is a really loaded term in my experience. Growing up, I was being "selfish" if I objected to someone changing the channel when I was watching TV or if I wanted to talk to a friend on the phone for ten minutes when no one else needed it. I'm "selfish" for wanting to spend my free time and my money on myself. I'm "selfish" because I'm child-free. All of this and more.

So yeah, I put myself first, I'm "selfish." I don't have a problem with that.

[soymade.livejournal.com]

IMO you have a distorted view of the meaning of that term. Being selfish is not the same as making your own wants and needs a legitimate priority. Everyone should do the latter.

[ferricent.livejournal.com]

With soymade on this one.

[iiiskaaa.livejournal.com]

You might want to read the comment I made to soymade.

[iiiskaaa.livejournal.com]

That's just the way a lot of people use the word - with a weaker force than what is implied by its dictionary definition. Maybe I didn't make it clear enough, but those were all actual examples of things that other people have called me selfish for. I wouldn't have used the scare quotes if I thought they were good examples of selfish behavior.

What I was trying to get across is just that most of the time when people are called "selfish," they're really not, in the full sense of the word (and I assume this is the case with the OP). They're just making themselves a priority, and there's nothing wrong with that, but many people will, in fact, interpret a person acting this way as acting selfishly, and tell that person so.

And I've seen exactly this happening in fandom. I've seen it happening on this comm - do you remember the (troll?) secret from a couple of months ago shaming everyone who buys fandom merchandise instead of donating the money to charity? And the one from a couple of months before about how everyone who enjoys art, literature, or music is a terrible person because we shouldn't waste our time and money on something so frivolous when there are children starving in Africa, basically?

I sympathize with the OP of this secret in that, faced with that sort of attitude, my knee-jerk reaction is just to think, "Yeah, okay, I'm really ~selfish~ LOL."

copying. pasting.

[ferricent.livejournal.com]

"What I was trying to get across is just that most of the time when people are called "selfish," they're really not, in the full sense of the word (and I assume this is the case with the OP). They're just making themselves a priority, and there's nothing wrong with that, but many people will, in fact, interpret a person acting this way as acting selfishly, and tell that person so."

This is totally legit, but if you'd really meant to express the whole of this in this comment (http://community.livejournal.com/fandomsecrets/442144.html?thread=258228512#t258228512) then I guess I missed some nuances, or something.

Re: copying. pasting.

[iiiskaaa.livejournal.com]

The comment you copy-pasted from was meant to expand on the comment soymade replied to, not directly on my original comment. All I meant by my original comment was that I don't see why being selfish is seen as such a bad thing. I don't think the two statements are inconsistent, assuming (as I always do when I use words implying value judgments - selfish, generous, good, bad, whatever) that the quality of "selfishness" exists on a spectrum, and that most of the time when the word is used, the intended force falls somewhere short of the extreme.

Doing something like grabbing the last beer from the case when you know someone else wants it too is selfish in some sense, though not in the full sense of the word. To use an example I remember using in one of the posts I mentioned in my last comment to soymade, the fact I bought an almost $200 pair of rain boots instead of a buying a cheaper pair and donating the rest of the money to Save the Puppies was selfish in some sense. And in a sense, it wasn't. But *insofar as it can be construed as selfish, I don't see what's wrong with it.*

Does that help?

(html failed 1st time, sry)

[ferricent.livejournal.com]

"I don't think the two statements are inconsistent, assuming ... that most of the time when [selfish] is used, the intended force falls somewhere short of the extreme."

If this is the case then I am still with soymade's saying this (http://community.livejournal.com/fandomsecrets/442144.html?thread=258403616#t258403616").

Re: (html failed 1st time, sry)

[iiiskaaa.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure you're actually getting what I'm trying to say about the usage of language, and I don't know that I can spell it out any more clearly. Have you read Animal Farm? I'm sure we can all recognize that it doesn't make sense to say "Everyone is equal, but some people are more equal than others," because this is a contradiction in terms.

But take a word like "good," and it is possible to say something like "X are good, but some X are better." Take a word like "selfish," and it is also possible to say something like "X is selfish, but Y is more selfish." I think we're going around in these circles, though, because you're taking this as evidence of my warped view of selfishness-the-moral-quality when what I'm trying to explain to you is how my observations on the usage by other people of selfish-the-word inform my statement that "I don't see what's so bad about being selfish."

[soymade.livejournal.com]

Ah. I understood that those were examples of things you'd been called selfish for; I just misunderstood that you knew it was a misapplication of the term. Otherwise I believe we are in agreement! Hehe.