[ SECRET POST #1293 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1293 ⌋

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Comments

[khandreia.livejournal.com]

Perhaps you could have at least given it a shot and tried playing alongside him instead? I know plenty of people who play WoW alongside their significant other...myself included. The guild I'm in is full of such people, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Contrary to popular belief, playing WoW and having a relationship don't have to be mutually exclusive.

[eldanildiel.livejournal.com]

This. My husband and I have a deal that I'll play with him if he'll participate in some of my hobbies with me and neither of us are allowed to "go down the rabbit hole" in terms of spending way too much time on either.

[(Anonymous)]

But what if they have no interest in playing WoW? I mean, I really like video games, but MMO's (especially huge ones with trolls abound) have never been my thing.
A person can have no desire to do something without being OMGJUDGEMENTAL.

[queenriley.livejournal.com]

Your suggestion is a good one, but won't work for everybody. Not everybody has a desire to play an MMO. They could try anyway and may find they enjoy it or, like myself, may find that they despise it with a fiery passion and never want to be near one again.

That being said, the issue I see isn't that he played WoW. The issue is that he blew off plans he had already made with her in order to play the game instead. It would be just the same if he'd blown her off for a baseball game, or a chess match, or anything else. It's disrespectful and shows an inability to balance, no matter what he ditched her for.

My husband is an MMO player. My husband is an OBSESSIVE MMO player. My husband has lost jobs because he couldn't stop playing his games long enough to go to work. He plays EverQuest, not WoW, but it's the same concept. Our marriage almost failed because of his personal inability to stop the games. He still plays, but not as much as he used to, and he realizes now the minute it starts to interfere in our relationship or with his job, that's the minute he needs to shut it all off and stop playing for a few months. It took a lot of pain and effort, a three month physical separation, and nearly destroying our lives (and actual financial destruction, more than once) to get him to this point.

So no, not every single person is capable of playing their MMO AND carrying on a relationship. Can many people balance the game and life? Sure. But not everybody can.

Believe me, speaking from experience, she was right to get out when she did. That he saw no problem ditching her for the game is a sign that he is NOT one of the people capable of finding the balance.

[(Anonymous)]

The issue is that he blew off plans he had already made with her in order to play the game instead.

OP didn't actually say that, though. She said he ditched her, which could mean
a) that he blew off plans with her, or
b) that he already had plans with other people on WoW and she's sore that he didn't blow them off to stay and hang out with her.

Maybe I should give OP the benefit of the doubt, but from the tone of the secret, I'm kinda leaning toward option b.

[queenriley.livejournal.com]

Perhaps I'm giving the OP too much credit. I don't know. I just can't see the point of anybody being so pissed about somebody not canceling already-made plans for them. I fully admit I could be too forgiving of the OP here, so maybe it is option b. I just read it more as option a.

I wouldn't get mad at my husband/potential boyfriend/friend/whomever for ditching me for something he already had planned (well, excluding my husband, who would plan to play every single night no exceptions, and six/seven/thirty nights in a row of "no honey, I can't play with the kids/celebrate a birthday/go on a date with you/acknowledge your existence because I promised the guys I'd raid" did piss me off... but that is not the situation of the OP). I WOULD get angry for having plans canceled in order to play the game. And that's how I read the secret.

Of course, it could also be my own experiences colouring my view of the situation. We just don't have enough information to really gauge either way.

[lightandwinged.livejournal.com]

^ This. Speaking as someone who met her fiance through WoW, it kind of always makes me somewhere between annoyed and sad when people think that the two are mutually exclusive.