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[ SECRET POST #1293 ]

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I just realised I'm supremely pissed at this person calling fandom a place for losers. GTFO, please. It's YOU who's contributing to the system you whine about, that popular people should be outside, doing things popular-ly, and "ugly losers without a life sit in front of the computer". Guess what: I piss on parties and popular shit. I've never cared for it. It bores me to no fucking end. I don't even know if I could've had it (probably not, because I really can't be bothered with relationships), because I've never been interested in it. It's YOU who wants it.

Fandom IS a life. And no, it's not a sad life, either. Like everything else, if it's everything in your life it's bad, but so is going shopping superfashionably with your superspecialawesome pretty poshfriends and...anything in all-consuming excess. But fandom constituting the biggest part of your life is not bad. What's important is that you're happy and satisfied with your life. And you aren't, OP, but it's because you don't really want to be a fangirl. You want to be those people you wish to drive away from fandom

I'm reasonably attractive and I love fandom over offline life social shit. You aren't, and you don't. Who should remain in fandom, OP? You'd cast it away the minute you could be the people you envy. I snore at the kind of life they lead.

good god you're delusional as fuck.

go outside

I went, I've forced myself to. I get bored. Everytime

A+. I love you.

hear hear!

THIS THIS THIS. I'm not interested in "having a life" where "a life" means "going to clubs and getting drunk." It's not sour grapes; it's that I like fandom.

stop making sense, you. You're supposed to feel BAD for not having fun the way you're told to.

I'll work on that xD

Fandom IS a life.
Oh, bb, if you truly believe that... well, that right there is your problem.

Also, it really doesn't help your point that you're coming across as seriously craycray.

Oh, bb, if you truly believe that... well, that right there is your problem.

Do you seriously believe that going out at night is better than that? Whatevarrr floats your boat, mate. If fandom is my One True hobby and makes me happy, that's the only thing that matters. I won't judge you for your interests, but fucking respect mine. Like I said, it'd be bad if that were THE ONLY thing in my life, but so would be going out and socialising as THE ONLY THING in yours. ANYTHING as The Only Thing in anyone's life would be awful, because excess is bad

I don't know what is craycray, since English is not my first language. If you're implying I'm crycry(ing), though, I wonder why you'd say that. Am I complaining? Do I sound unhappy with my life? I assure you I'm not. That is the point XD

I only ask OP respect. If she/he doesn't want fandom to be her/his life, that's something only SHE/HE can change, but fucking respect people like me who are absolutely fine with it
And OP also needed to know that being pretty is not the Be All/End All of existance. Some of us actually value other things over it, even if OP doesn't and contributes to the system that she whines about

First of all, http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cray%20cray

As for the rest... I'm not sure what in my comment made you believe that falling out of night clubs drunk off my arse was the way I spend my free time.

That aside, my point is that if you seriously believe that dedicating your life to FICTIONAL THINGS is better or even comparable to interacting with real people in the real world, YOU HAVE SERIOUS ISSUES. I've no idea what the voices in your head are telling you, hon, but that's a FACT.

Again, I ask you to explain why you'd say that. I think I express myself in a rational manner

As for the rest...I'm not sure what in my comment made you believe I thought you spent your free time falling out of night clubs drunk off your arse.

It's not a FACT. You may prefer interacting with real people (even though I never said I didn't, just that I usually prefer to stay at home fangirling, with someone or without; it's the activity, not the company, what I'm talking about), but guess what? NOT EVERYBODY PREFERS THE SAME THINGS YOU DO. LE FUCKING GASP!

You can dedicate your life to whatever you want, as I do. Personally, I much prefer interacting with interesting real (whoever said fans are not real? lol, online friends also exist, somewhere) people who live far away by means of a computer than dedicate my life to boring and totally uninteresting people next door doing boring uninteresting things

Maybe I have yet to find LOADS AND LOADS of interesting people that live close to me. Maybe you have yet to find out how enriching fandom can be.

Mira, guapa, que vives en Madrid, no en Las Hurdes, si no has encontrado gente interesante será porque no sabes reconocerlos, o porque te huyen. Lo segundo empieza a perfilarse como la alternativa más probable.

O posiblemente porque el 90% de la gente es un coñazo que te cagas. O porque tengo unos estandares de "interesante" bastante mas altos que los tuyosXD

Y si me rehuyen, pues estupendo! Si es que yo socializar no quiero! Lo que te digo es que me importa un rabano socializar, pero que no joda nadie con que no querer socializar es de locos.

que no joda nadie con que no querer socializar es de locos
Mientras no entiendas que eso es así y punto (y si no quieres decir "de locos", digamos... "de poco equilibrados"), pues no tenemos nada más que hablar.

*bows out*

"Es asi, porque yo lo digo, y si no, no respiro >.<"

Pffff, me aburresXD

Porque YO lo digo? Lol! Bitch, please.

Avoidant personality disorder [is] characterized by a pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation, and avoidance of social interaction.

¿Te suena?

Avoidant personality disorder [is] characterized by a pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation, and avoidance of social interaction.

La verdad es que noXD

"Inhibir" se usa comunmente en relación a comportamientos traumaticos de supresión de algo. Te aseguro que yo, ni traumas ni supresión de nada que me apetezcaXD

Ademas, "social interaction" no tiene por que ser fisica.

In social science, a social relation or social interaction refers to a relationship between two (i.e. a dyad), three (i.e. a triad) or more individuals (e.g. a social group).

Te suena? ;)

Denial, bb, look it up.

And now I'm leaving for real because such display of stupidity (not to mention you appalling grammar - in any language), is quite uncomfortable to watch.

Idiocy, bb, look it up.

Right back at you, sweetheartXD

so you are telling me you never have moments where you're sitting alone at your computer and feel empty? moments where just to hear another person's voice or feel another person's touch wouldn't make your whole day seem worthwhile?

you never for one minute think how nice it would be to go to some place you've never been before, meet someone new, have an experience you couldn't have imagined for yourself? you've never wanted to connect to a person, study their face in front of you, notice how they look and act and the way light plays across their face in mornings or how shadow might make a face you know seem new and breathtakingly unfamiliar? have that person touch your face or your hand in a way that makes you feel like you've never felt a touch before, or say something wonderful to you that you could never have predicted?

or even to feel the burn of failure and rejection, and the strange freedom that grants, knowing you tried something and it failed and you're still okay? or simply to wander about the street at night with friends, with nothing to do and nowhere to go? i usually find that, oddly enough, those are the nights that i tend to remember the most.

it's more than shopping and getting wasted. fandom is nice and fun, but its a world you can control, a world that can't hurt you. if you rely on that entirely, it's no better than getting wasted every night. it's a crutch. go out and take a risk. i promise it's better than you think, and i don't believe you when you say you don't ever, for even one minute, want to.

Frankly, I don't miss human contact, no. Maybe it's because my family is loving enough *shrug*
As for emptiness..seriously, no, I don't. But I have felt emptiness in social places where I feel uncomfortable, sometimes. Probably because I forced myself to goXD

I love travelling. That's one thing my laziness doesn't stop. But I don't need to meet people to enjoy it. I can also experience lots of new things without new people. I don't actively recluse all the time, but I don't seek company either

you've never wanted to connect to a person, study their face in front of you, notice how they look and act and the way light plays across their face in mornings or how shadow might make a face you know seem new and breathtakingly unfamiliar?

...no. Not really. Wonderful for you if you do, though. I really don't crave this. Just thinking about it makes me groanXD

have that person touch your face or your hand in a way that makes you feel like you've never felt a touch before, or say something wonderful to you that you could never have predicted?

I guess, in an abstract way? But I don't even long for it so much. Sometimes I read about that in fiction and think it sounds nice, but I don't actively seek it.
The last part yes, though, but I get that in online friends too ^^

or even to feel the burn of failure and rejection, and the strange freedom that grants, knowing you tried something and it failed and you're still okay?

I try and fail and succeed. I just don't seek this in social interactions in person. I've sometimes wandered around like that, sometimes I had fun, but usually, I have more fun in front of my computer, honestly. For me, they were quite forgettable, those nights

it's more than shopping and getting wasted. fandom is nice and fun, but its a world you can control, a world that can't hurt you. if you rely on that entirely, it's no better than getting wasted every night. it's a crutch. go out and take a risk. i promise it's better than you think, and i don't believe you when you say you don't ever, for even one minute, want to.

Oh, but I like sticky fandomm interaction. I wouldn't be here if I didn't! And I always always comment logged in for that reason tooXD

It's not that I live at home closed to the outside world; I go to college, I go to the pool, I go out shopping, mostly books and manga; I go to museums, I go to jazz concerts (two days ago). I even went on an internship abroad! I have friends, I hang out with my family and siblings. But the thing I like to do the most with my free time is fangirl in my computer. Is it really THAT hard to understand and respect?

It's certainly not, I must have misunderstood the extent of isolation you were talking about. I am in a new place and don't know anyone, so i'm feeling lonely myself, and the idea that someone might choose that isolation struck me as sort of a waste. but, clearly you are not the shut-in that the other repliers seemed to assume. i apologize for my presumption.

Yeah, but I also have those "double rainbow" moments where the world is just so beautiful that to recapture it would be impossible.

Some of these things involve money. I do want to interact with people in that way, but I know I'm too immature, needy and shallow to have that happen with anyone.

Oh, I know all about the freedom of deciding to fail. I don't have friends, however.

However, quite a bit of that does involve shopping and getting wasted somewhere. I'm not comfortable with drinking culture. I think I prefer fandom as a crutch. It doesn't come with a hangover.

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