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fandomsecrets2010-09-15 05:14 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2010-09-15 05:14 pm
[ SECRET POST #1351 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1351 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Secrets Left to Post: 05 pages, 111 secrets from Secret Submission Post #193.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 2 3 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 3 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - unreadable ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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Offering age-appropriate criticism is not the same thing as telling a kid they're a failure for not producing work of age-IN-appropriate skill. Refusing to demonstrate any appreciation for your child's efforts definitely falls into the latter category.
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(Anonymous) 2010-09-17 01:49 am (UTC)(link)Why did you also assume they didn't demonstrate *any* appreciation?
Way to jump to conclusions about some pretty nice people, there.
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Hey, YOU'RE the one who suggested they didn't hang it because they didn't consider it good enough to display or admire. I'd consider that a pretty clear statement of failure to a little kid.
Way to jump to conclusions about some pretty nice people, there.
Whatever helps you sleep better at night.
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(Anonymous) 2010-09-17 01:49 pm (UTC)(link)Maybe you were one of those kids that needed trophies for participation. I didn't grow up in the US. We got prizes for achievement, and encouragement towards that goal. Different mindset, not nasty or abusive in the least.
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Anyway, I'm inclined to doubt you, based on your first comment. If there is no such cultural expectation, then why did you mention it as a watermark of youthful artistic success?
Maybe you were one of those kids that needed trophies for participation.
LOL, nice try, but no. North American schools aren't actually as one-note as that. They have many other ways of fucking kids up, too.
But this isn't about "trophies for participation." I happen to agree that handing out gold stars to everyone for participation alone is a disaster in the long run, but that's neither here nor there. Telling a kid who is only five years old that their art isn't good enough by your standards - which is EXACTLY what you said you'd do in your first comment - is developmentally inappropriate. End of.
Before you have kids then, at least pick up a parenting book or twice. Christ.
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(Anonymous) 2010-09-18 12:45 am (UTC)(link)You're doubting someone else, because that wasn't me. Me being the person whose art wasn't hung. But A+ for effort.
So, no, my parents never said that my art wasn't good enough by their standards. They just never hung it on their fridge. That's all. The causality is all on you.
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If you're a different anon, say so. Of course I'm going to assume you're the first one, UNLESS YOU SAY SO like someone who isn't a total dumbshit and knows I otherwise have NO WAY OF KNOWING you're someone else.
That's on YOU.
Also, your comments are now completely and utterly pointless and irrelevant to what I said to SOMEONE ELSE. Thanks for wasting my time and yours, you mindless brat.