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fandomsecrets2011-01-05 04:09 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2011-01-05 04:09 pm
[ SECRET POST #1464 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1464 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Secrets Left to Post: 05 pages, 108 secrets from Secret Submission Post #209.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
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(Anonymous) 2011-01-06 01:01 pm (UTC)(link)"No thanks."
"Okay."
Been married 15 years, and ever single act of intercourse has been consented to. It's not that hard to do.
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That's hilarious.
I have never planned any action, back door oi>r otherwise, for tonight
The thought of planning sex is just entirely alien in my world.
You have no concept of the fact that other relationships might not be like yours.
Generally it starts if we start kissing, touching, and that (often, but not always) actually leads do sex. And it's a very nice, spontaneous thing. If you partner just walks in looking hot as hell, and you're all over them them,and they reciprocate and don't stand there like a cold fish...it sure as hell is consensual, even they haven't specifically spelled out which body part goes in which orifice at which hour of the day...
DA
(Anonymous) 2011-01-06 04:56 pm (UTC)(link)Two people are in the middle of getting ready to have sex. Touching, fondling, kissing. Maybe even in the middle of sex. Then one asks the other, can I do a specific sex act that I'm not sure you're willing to do? The other goes no. The other goes ok, and they proceed to have other kinds of sex that have been previously established they are willing to do.
Re: DA
But even you agree there is such a thing as "kinds of sex that have been previously established they are willing to do"
And such acts,surely are not rape, unless person A states to person B that sexual act number C, which has been acceptable the first 3 years, is no longer acceptable now.
This is of course a possibility: Person A might not feel happy to do it, because, say they had surgery and it's now painful. Or because their mom has died and they're depressed. And if they make clear through words or clear body language that the act is undesired, person B must of course stop. And should not coerce further on basis of "it being okay before".
But if person A says nothing, then person B has no way of knowing that sexual act C, which has always been perfectly pleasurable withing their relationship, is suddenly not acceptable. Unless they're highly empathic, but not all people are.
Which was my point all along.