case: (Default)
Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2011-04-09 03:42 pm

[ SECRET POST #1558 ]


⌈ Secret Post #1558 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.


__________________________________________________



09.


__________________________________________________



10.


__________________________________________________



11.


__________________________________________________



12.


__________________________________________________



13.


__________________________________________________



14.


__________________________________________________



15.


__________________________________________________



16.


__________________________________________________



17.


__________________________________________________



18.


__________________________________________________



19.


__________________________________________________



20.


__________________________________________________



21.


__________________________________________________



22.


__________________________________________________



23.


__________________________________________________



24.


__________________________________________________



25.


__________________________________________________



26.


__________________________________________________



27.


__________________________________________________



28.


__________________________________________________



29.


__________________________________________________



30.


__________________________________________________



31.


__________________________________________________



32.


__________________________________________________



33.


__________________________________________________



34.


__________________________________________________



35.


__________________________________________________



36.


__________________________________________________



37.


__________________________________________________



38.


__________________________________________________



39.


__________________________________________________



40.



Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 12 pages, 291 secrets from Secret Submission Post #223.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 3 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ], [ 1 - take it to comments ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

[identity profile] wldcatsprstr-14.livejournal.com 2011-04-10 02:22 pm (UTC)(link)
You're missing my point if you think we're disagreeing. My point is exactly that each person should be allowed to make the choice that they want. The people I'm upset at are the ones that seem to think "young people" shouldn't be allowed to make the choice to marry because, by virtue of being "young," they're all automatically less fit than "older people" to be ready. I'm upset with the haters that are always putting pressure on people who marry young and spouting doom-filled comments about how stupid they are and how it's never gonna last.

The anecdotal evidence was for those people that automatically think "married young=doomed to fail." I never professed to know everyone. Notice how I qualified that this was in my own experience. But thanks for being snarky about it.

[identity profile] liyosa.livejournal.com 2011-04-10 02:40 pm (UTC)(link)
There's absolutely no guarantee that getting married older will guarantee you staying together. And not having kids doesn't raise the chance that a couple will stay together. In fact, it's the opposite (I'm speaking in terms of the US).

.... You are basically implying that the older you marry, the more likely you're going to divorce.

You then support it with anecdotal evidence.

The first part of my comment was indeed snarky. The second part, however, is a genuine scepticism on my part on your experience. All experiences are different and viewed under different lenses. In order to prove your statement correct, you're going to have to provide me with some pretty hard statistics. And even then, the truth is probably murkier than what the statistics could imply.

[identity profile] wldcatsprstr-14.livejournal.com 2011-04-10 06:24 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm not saying that it's causation. I'm just saying that the statistics don't support what people seem to think (marriages involving young people end prematurely more often than not). I was just saying that the causation that people were implying isn't there. In either direction, there's no causation. And then I added the anecdote to show how I've never seen that causation in my personal experience.

At least that's what I meant to say. If I didn't then I fail.

I know that people have different experiences. That's exactly my point. That just saying "Oh young people are stupid for getting married so soon and their marriages are gonna fail" is just ridiculous because people's experiences are different.