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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2011-04-09 03:42 pm

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[identity profile] angelofcaffeine.livejournal.com 2011-04-10 09:39 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, I think what we've concluded is that it's all a grey area!

Another issue I came across earlier today: a good friend of mine recently converted, and was married just this morning, and her non-Jewish family (I think mother and sister?) stood at the chuppah with her and participated in that. I'm curious as to the halacha on that, since conversion is (legally speaking) separating yourself from your non-Jewish family...

[identity profile] slian-martreb.livejournal.com 2011-04-11 11:50 am (UTC)(link)
What kind of conversion did she have?

A close friend of mine has a father who is more or less completely off the derech and while he attended her wedding, he did not stand under her chuppah (her mother did, though, which everyone thought was strange, especially because her parents are divorced and its supposed to be another 'married' couple that 'gives you away).

So, I don't know that I'd see a problem with them attending (again, as you say, the conversion legally separates them; to the best of my knowledge it doesn't require that they cut all ties). I would have to imagine that if they 'participated' it was in a symbolic way and your friend had a different couple to 'give her away'?

[identity profile] angelofcaffeine.livejournal.com 2011-04-11 05:27 pm (UTC)(link)
She had a Masorti conversion, so it's pretty strict, but occasionally things are more lenient. Halachically speaking, I don't think there's any question that the parents can attend - the separation is a legal one, not necessarily a physical one. I don't know why her sister was with her mother, but they were definitely 'giving her away' (that is, with the wine etc). I'm not sure if it's a Masorti decision that a parent, regardless of marital status or conversion, can do it. This was the first Masorti wedding I'd ever attended... I suppose I should ask the Rabbi.