[ SECRET POST #1577 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1577 ⌋


Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 044 secrets from Secret Submission Post #225.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 1 2 - repeats ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments and concerns should go here.

Comments

[herongale]

That's why I said "maybe." I really have no idea what the OP's situation is, but this sort of scenario is not exactly uncommon. She says herself that she's possessive and oversensitive, after all. Maybe it's projecting of me to identify more with the friend in this scenario than with her, since it's true I've had possessive friends and have found them exhausting, to the point of eventually dropping them as friends. But so what if I'm projecting? I have a perspective I want to share, so I'm sharing it.

No matter what her reasons are, it is valid for her to feel left out. That is exactly what is happening, so why shouldn't she feel left out?

However, if her friend is simply being selfish and insensitive there's really nothing she can do to fix things other than hope that the friend changes. That sort of "wait and see" approach is all very well but it is also quite passive. If she wants to be proactive and make an attempt at fixing this, the only person whose behavior in this that she CAN change is her own. It's honestly better for her if she's been the one who has been making mistakes here, because that means there's something she can change, and I think it increases her odds that she'll be able to hold on to the friendship over the long run.

Only the secret's OP can decide if my questions and suggestions apply to her or not, but if we can't speculate at all, why bother having these secrets open to commenting to begin with?