What I mean is the people who, when they think someone is judging them, go all "I LIKE XXX CONTROVERSIAL THING IT IS HOT AND YOU SHOULD SHUT UP YOU JUDGING MCJUDGYPANTS HDU NOT GET OFF ON THE SAME THING I DO I DON'T CARE IF YOU HAVE ISSUES." That kind of big deal. Which I keep encountering, whenever someone says they don't like someone else's kink for whatever reason. There's rarely any kind of actual discussion involved beyond statements like the above.