Yes, people can choose to not act on those urges in real life, but fantasy is fantasy, what is the point of making people feel bad about it?

That is a quote wrong on so many levels that it mildly breaks my brain. You are a human, yes? Then you have morals, choices and freewill, yes? Then you CHOOSE to enjoy getting off on rape, murder, childrape, whatever. Your choice, your will. Do not start acting like a victim.